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Text -- 1 Peter 3:7 (NET)

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3:7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as the weaker partners and show them honor as fellow heirs of the grace of life. In this way nothing will hinder your prayers.
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Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Ye husbands likewise ( hoi andres homoiōs ). Probably "likewise"here refers to honouring all men (1Pe 2:17), not "likewise"of 1Pe 3:1.

Ye husbands likewise ( hoi andres homoiōs ).

Probably "likewise"here refers to honouring all men (1Pe 2:17), not "likewise"of 1Pe 3:1.

Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Dwell with ( sunoikountes ). Present active participle of sunoikeō , old verb for domestic association, here only in N.T. Used as imperative here l...

Dwell with ( sunoikountes ).

Present active participle of sunoikeō , old verb for domestic association, here only in N.T. Used as imperative here like the participle in 1Pe 2:18; 1Pe 3:1.

Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- According to knowledge ( kata gnōsin ). "With an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation"(Vincent).

According to knowledge ( kata gnōsin ).

"With an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation"(Vincent).

Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Giving honour unto the woman as unto the weaker vessel ( hōs asthenesterōi skeuei tōi gunaikeiōi aponemontes timēn ). Present active partic...

Giving honour unto the woman as unto the weaker vessel ( hōs asthenesterōi skeuei tōi gunaikeiōi aponemontes timēn ).

Present active participle of aponemō , old verb, to assign, to portion out (or off), here only in N.T. Skeuos is an old and common word for vessel, furniture, utensil (Mat 12:29; 2Ti 2:20). Here both husband and wife are termed vessels or "parts of the furniture of God’ s house"(Bigg). See Paul’ s use of skeuos for ministers (2Co 4:7). Gunaikeiōi here is an adjective (female, feminine) from gunē (woman, wife). She is termed "the weaker"(tōi asthenesterōi ), not for intellectual or moral weakness, but purely for physical reasons, which the husband must recognize with due consideration for marital happiness.

Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Joint-heirs of the grace of life ( sunklēronomoi charitos zōēs ). Late double compound found in an Ephesian inscription and the papyri, in N.T....

Joint-heirs of the grace of life ( sunklēronomoi charitos zōēs ).

Late double compound found in an Ephesian inscription and the papyri, in N.T. only here, Rom 8:17; Eph 3:6; Heb 11:9. God’ s gift of life eternal belongs to woman as well as to man. In the eyes of God the wife may be superior to the husband, not merely equal.

Robertson: 1Pe 3:7 - -- To the end that your prayers be not hindered ( eis to mē egkoptesthai tas proseuchas humōn ). Purpose clause with eis to and the present passiv...

To the end that your prayers be not hindered ( eis to mē egkoptesthai tas proseuchas humōn ).

Purpose clause with eis to and the present passive infinitive (with negative mē ) of egkoptō , to cut in, to interrupt, late verb (Polybius), as in Rom 15:22, etc. Very vivid to us now with our telephones and radios when people cut in on us. Proseuchas (prayers) is the accusative of general reference. Husbands surely have here cause to consider why their prayers are not answered.

Vincent: 1Pe 3:7 - -- According to knowledge With an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation.

According to knowledge

With an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation.

Vincent: 1Pe 3:7 - -- The woman ( τῷ γυναικείῳ ) Not a noun, however, as would appear from the ordinary rendering, but an adjective, agreeing with ...

The woman ( τῷ γυναικείῳ )

Not a noun, however, as would appear from the ordinary rendering, but an adjective, agreeing with σκεύει , vessel, as does also ἀσθενεστέρῳ , weaker. Both are attributes of vessel; the female vessel as weaker. So Rev., in margin.

Vincent: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Vessel ( σκεύει ) Compare 1Th 4:4. The primary idea of vessel, which is formed from the Latin vasellum , the diminutive of vas , a ...

Vessel ( σκεύει )

Compare 1Th 4:4. The primary idea of vessel, which is formed from the Latin vasellum , the diminutive of vas , a vase , is that of the receptacle which covers and contains; the case or protecting cover. Hence it is allied, etymologically, with vest, vestment, and wear. It is used in the New Testament (1) in the sense of a cup or dish (Luk 8:16; Joh 19:29; 2Ti 2:20; Rev 2:27; Rev 18:12). (2) Of the man, as containing the divine energy, or as a subject of divine mercy or wrath, and hence becoming a divine instrument. Thus Paul is a chosen vessel to bear God's name (Act 9:15). Vessels of wrath (Rom 9:22); of mercy (Rom 9:23). So of the woman, as God's instrument, along with man, for his service in the family and in society. (3) Collectively, in the plural, of all the implements of any particular economy, as a house, or a ship. Mat 12:29, goods; Act 27:17, the tackling or gear of a ship.

Vincent: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Giving ( ἀπονέμοντες ) Only here in New Testament. The word means, literally, to portion out, and is appropriate to the husband ...

Giving ( ἀπονέμοντες )

Only here in New Testament. The word means, literally, to portion out, and is appropriate to the husband as controlling what is to be meted out to the wife.

Vincent: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Hindered ( ἐγκόπτεσθαι ) So A. V. and Rev., and the best texts, and the majority of commentators. The word means, literally, to k...

Hindered ( ἐγκόπτεσθαι )

So A. V. and Rev., and the best texts, and the majority of commentators. The word means, literally, to knock in; make an incision into; and hence, generally, to hinder or thwart (Gal 5:7; 1Th 2:18). Some, however, read ἐκκόπτεσθαι , to cut off or destroy.

Wesley: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Knowing they are weak, and therefore to be used with all tenderness. Yet do not despise them for this, but give them honour - Both in heart, in word, ...

Knowing they are weak, and therefore to be used with all tenderness. Yet do not despise them for this, but give them honour - Both in heart, in word, and in action; as those who are called to be joint - heirs of that eternal life which ye and they hope to receive by the free grace of God.

Wesley: 1Pe 3:7 - -- On the one part or the other. All sin hinders prayer; particularly anger. Anything at which we are angry is never more apt to come into our mind than ...

On the one part or the other. All sin hinders prayer; particularly anger. Anything at which we are angry is never more apt to come into our mind than when we are at prayer; and those who do not forgive will find no forgiveness from God.

JFB: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Greek, "dwelling": connected with the verb, 1Pe 2:17, "Honor all."

Greek, "dwelling": connected with the verb, 1Pe 2:17, "Honor all."

JFB: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Christian knowledge: appreciating the due relation of the sexes in the design of God, and acting with tenderness and forbearance accordingly: wisely: ...

Christian knowledge: appreciating the due relation of the sexes in the design of God, and acting with tenderness and forbearance accordingly: wisely: with wise consideration.

JFB: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Translate and punctuate the Greek rather, "dwelling according to knowledge with the female (Greek adjective, qualifying 'vessel'; not as English Versi...

Translate and punctuate the Greek rather, "dwelling according to knowledge with the female (Greek adjective, qualifying 'vessel'; not as English Version, a noun) as with the weaker vessel (see on 1Th 4:4. Both husband and wife are vessels in God's hand, and of God's making, to fulfil His gracious purposes. Both weak, the woman the weaker. The sense of his own weakness, and that she, like himself, is God's vessel and fabric, ought to lead him to act with tender and wise consideration towards her who is the weaker fabric), giving (literally, 'assigning,' 'apportioning') honor as being also (besides being man and wife) heirs together," &c.; or, as the Vatican manuscript reads, as to those who are also (besides being your wives) fellow heirs." (The reason why the man should give honor to the woman is, because God gives honor to both as fellow heirs; compare the same argument, 1Pe 3:9). He does not take into account the case of an unbelieving wife, as she might yet believe.

JFB: 1Pe 3:7 - -- God's gracious gift of life (1Pe 1:4, 1Pe 1:13).

God's gracious gift of life (1Pe 1:4, 1Pe 1:13).

JFB: 1Pe 3:7 - -- By dissensions, which prevent united prayer, on which depends the blessing.

By dissensions, which prevent united prayer, on which depends the blessing.

Clarke: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Dwell with them according to knowledge - Give your wives, by no species of unkind carriage, any excuse for delinquency. How can a man expect his wif...

Dwell with them according to knowledge - Give your wives, by no species of unkind carriage, any excuse for delinquency. How can a man expect his wife to be faithful to him, if he be unfaithful to her? and vice versa

Clarke: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Giving honor unto the wife - Using your superior strength and experience in her behalf, and thus honouring her by becoming her protector and support...

Giving honor unto the wife - Using your superior strength and experience in her behalf, and thus honouring her by becoming her protector and support. But the word τιμη honor, signifies maintenance as well as respect; - maintain, provide for the wife

Clarke: 1Pe 3:7 - -- As - the weaker vessel - Being more delicately, and consequently more slenderly, constructed. Roughness and strength go hand in hand; so likewise do...

As - the weaker vessel - Being more delicately, and consequently more slenderly, constructed. Roughness and strength go hand in hand; so likewise do beauty and frailty. The female has what the man wants - beauty and delicacy. The male has what the female wants - courage and strength. The one is as good in its place as the other: and by these things God has made an equality between the man and the woman, so that there is properly very little superiority on either side. See the note on 1Th 4:4

Clarke: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Being heirs together - Both the man and woman being equally called to eternal glory: and as prayer is one great means of obtaining a meetness for it...

Being heirs together - Both the man and woman being equally called to eternal glory: and as prayer is one great means of obtaining a meetness for it, it is necessary that they should live together in such a manner as to prevent all family contentions, that they may not be prevented, by disputes or misunderstandings, from uniting daily in this most important duty - family and social prayer.

Calvin: 1Pe 3:7 - -- 7.Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them. From husbands he requires prudence; for dominion over their wives is not given them, except on this conditi...

7.Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them. From husbands he requires prudence; for dominion over their wives is not given them, except on this condition, that they exercise authority prudently. Then let husbands remember that they need prudence to do rightly their duty. And doubtless many foolish things must be endured by them, many unpleasant things must be borne with; and they must at the same time beware lest their indulgence should foster folly. Hence the admonition of Peter is not in vain, that the husbands ought to cohabit with them as with a weaker vessel. Part of the prudence which he mentions, is, that the husbands honor their wives. For nothing destroys the friendship of life more than contempt; nor can we really love any but those whom we esteem; for love must be connected with respect.

Moreover, he employs a twofold argument, in order to persuade husbands to treat their wives honourably and kindly. The first is derived from the weakness of the sex; the other, from the honor with which God favors them. These things seem indeed to be in a manner contrary, — that honor ought to be given to wives, because they are weak, and because they excel; but these things well agree together where love exists. It is evident, that God is despised in his gifts, except we honor those on whom he has conferred any excellency. But when we consider that we are members of the same body, we learn to bear with one another, and mutually to cover our infirmities. This is what Paul means when he says that greater honor is given to the weaker members, (1Co 12:23;) even because we are more careful in protecting them from shame. Then Peter does not without reason command that women should be cared for, and that they should be honored with a kind treatment, because they are weak. And then as we more easily forgive children, when they offend through inexperience of age; so the weakness of the female sex ought to make us not to be too rigid and severe towards our wives.

The word vessel, as it is well known, means in Scripture any sort of instrument.

Being heirs together (or co-heirs) of the grace of life Some copies have “of manifold grace;” others, instead of “life,” have the word “living.” Some read “co-heirs” in the dative case, which makes no difference in the sense. A conjunction is put by others between manifold grace and life; which reading is the most suitable. 38 For since the Lord is pleased to bestow in common on husbands and wives the same graces, he invites them to seek an equality in them; and we know that those graces are manifold in which wives are partakers with their husbands. For some belong to the present life, and some to God’s spiritual kingdom. He afterwards adds, that they are co-heirs also of life, which is the chief thing. And though some are strangers to the hope of salvation, yet as it is offered by the Lord to them no less than to their husbands, it is a sufficient honor to the sex.

That your prayers be not hindered For God cannot be rightly called upon, unless our minds be calm and peaceable. Among strifes and contentions there is no place for prayer. Peter indeed addresses the husband and the wife, when he bids them to be at peace one with another, so that they might with one mind pray to God. But we may hence gather a general doctrine — that no one ought to come to God except he is united to his brethren. Then as this reason ought to restrain all domestic quarrels and strifes, in order that each one of the family may pray to God; so in common life it ought to be as it were a bridle to check all contentions. For we are more than insane, if we knowingly and wilfully close up the way to God’s presence by prayer, since this is the only asylum of our salvation.

Some give this explanation, that an intercourse with the wife ought to be sparing and temperate, lest too much indulgence in this respect should prevent attention to prayer, according to that saying of Paul,

“Defraud not one another, unless by consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer.” (1Co 7:5.)

But the doctrine of Peter extends wider: and then Paul does not mean that prayers are interrupted by mutual cohabitation. Therefore the explanation which I have given ought to be retained.

Defender: 1Pe 3:7 - -- See Col 3:19; Pro 31:11, Pro 31:28.

Defender: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Although the husband and wife have been created for very specific roles in the family, the church, and society in general, and although neither will f...

Although the husband and wife have been created for very specific roles in the family, the church, and society in general, and although neither will find real fulfillment in life if they rebel against those roles, they must always remember that spiritually they are equals before God. Both were created "in the image of God" (Gen 1:27) and are "heirs together" of God's grace.

Defender: 1Pe 3:7 - -- It is noteworthy that one important reason for unanswered prayer may be poor home relationships."

It is noteworthy that one important reason for unanswered prayer may be poor home relationships."

TSK: 1Pe 3:7 - -- ye : Gen 2:23, Gen 2:24; Pro 5:15-19; Mal 2:14-16; Mat 19:3-9; 1Co 7:3; Col 3:19; Eph 5:25-28, Eph 5:33 giving : 1Co 12:22-24; 1Th 4:4 heirs : Eph 3:6...

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Barnes: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Likewise, ye husbands - On the general duty of husbands, see the notes at Eph 5:25 ff. Dwell with them - That is, "Let your manner of liv...

Likewise, ye husbands - On the general duty of husbands, see the notes at Eph 5:25 ff.

Dwell with them - That is, "Let your manner of living with them be that which is immediately specified."

According to knowledge - In accordance with an intelligent view of the nature of the relation; or, as becomes those who have been instructed in the duties of this relation according to the gospel. The meaning evidently is, that they should seek to obtain just views of what Christianity enjoins in regard to this relation, and that they should allow those intelligent views to control them in all their contact with their wives.

Giving honor unto the wife - It was an important advance made in society when the Christian religion gave such a direction as this, for everywhere among the pagan, and under all false systems of religion, woman has been regarded as worthy of little honor or respect. She has been considered as a slave, or as a mere instrument to gratify the passions of man. It is one of the elementary doctrines of Christianity, however, that woman is to be treated with respect; and one of the first and most marked effects of religion on society is to elevate the wife to a condition in which she will be worthy of esteem. The particular reasons for the honor which husbands are directed to show to their wives, here specified, are two: she is to be treated with special kindness as being more feeble than man, and as having a claim therefore to delicate attention; and she is to be honored as the equal heir of the grace of life. Doddridge, Clarke, and some others, suppose that the word honor here refers to maintenance or support; and that the command is, that the husband is to provide for his wife so that she may not want. But it seems to me that the word is to be understood here in its more usual signification, and that it inculcates a higher duty than that of merely providing for the temporal needs of the wife, and strikes at a deeper evil than a mere neglect of meeting her temporal necessities. The reasons assigned for doing this seem to imply it.

As unto the weaker vessel - It is not uncommon in the Scriptures to compare the body to a vessel, (Compare the notes at 1Th 4:4), and thence the comparison is extended to the whole person. This is done either because the body is frail and feeble, like an earthen vessel easily broken; or because it is that in which the soul is lodged; or because, in accordance with a frequent use of the word, (see below,) the body is the instrument by which the soul accomplishes its purposes, or is the helper of the soul. Compare Act 9:15; Rom 9:22-23; 2Co 4:7. In the later Hebrew usage it was common to apply the term vessel (Hebrew כלי ke liy , Greek σκεύος skeuos ) to a wife, as is done here. See Schoettgen, Hor. Heb. p. 827. Expressions similar to this, in regard to the comparative feebleness of woman, occur frequently in the classic writers. See Wetstein in loc. The reasons why the term vessel was given to a wife, are not very apparent.

A not unfrequent sense of the word used here ( σκεύος skeuos ) in the Greek classics was that of an instrument; a helper; one who was employed by another to accomplish anything, or to aid him (Passow), and it seems probable that this was the reason why the term was given to the wife. Compare Gen 2:18. The reason here assigned for the honor that was to be shown to the wife is, that she is "the weaker vessel."By this it is not necessarily meant that she is of feebler capacity, or inferior mental endowments, but that she is more tender and delicate; more subject to infirmities and weaknesses; less capable of enduring fatigue and toil; less adapted to the rough and stormy scenes of life. As such, she should be regarded and treated with special kindness and attention. This is a reason, the force of which all can see and appreciate. So we feel toward a sister; so we feel toward a beloved child, if he is of feeble frame and delicate constitution; and so every man should feel in relation to his wife. She may have mental endowments equal to his own; she may have moral qualities in every way superior to his; but the God of nature has made her with a more delicate frame, a more fragile structure, and with a body subject to many infirmities to which the more hardy frame of man is a stranger.

And as being heirs together of the grace of life - The grace that is connected with eternal life; that is, as fellow-Christians. They were equal heirs of the everlasting inheritance, called in the Scripture "life;"and the same "grace"connected with that inheritance had been conferred on both. This passage contains a very important truth in regard to the female sex. Under every other system of religion but the Christian system, woman has been regarded as in every way inferior to man. Christianity teaches that, in respect to her higher interests, the interests of religion, she is every way his equal. She is entitled to all the hopes and promises which religion imparts. She is redeemed as he is. She is addressed in the same language of tender invitation. She has the same privileges and comforts which religion imparts here, and she will be elevated to the same rank and privileges in heaven. This single truth would raise the female sex everywhere from degradation, and check at once half the social evils of the race. Make her the equal of man in the hope of heaven, and at once she rises to her appropriate place. Home is made what it should be, a place of intelligence and pure friendship; and a world of suffering and sadness smiles under the benefactions of Christian woman.

That your prayers be not hindered - It is fairly implied here:

\caps1 (1) t\caps0 hat it was supposed there would be united or family prayer. The apostle is speaking of "dwelling with the wife,"and of the right manner of treating her; and it is plainly supposed that united prayer would be one thing that would characterise their living together. He does not direct that there should be prayer. He seems to take it for granted that there would be; and it may be remarked, that where there is true religion in right exercise, there is prayer as a matter of course. The head of a family does not ask whether he must establish family worship; he does it as one of the spontaneous fruits of religion - as a thing concerning which no formal command is necessary. Prayer in the family, as everywhere else, is a privilege; and the true question to be asked on the subject is not whether a man must, but whether he may pray.

\caps1 (2) i\caps0 t is implied that there might be such a way of living as effectually to hinder prayer; that is, to prevent its being offered aright, and to prevent any answer. This might occur in many ways. If the husband treated the wife unkindly; if he did not show her proper respect and affection; if there were bickerings, and jealousies, and contentions between them, there could be no hope that acceptable prayer would be offered. A spirit of strife; irritability and unevenness of temper; harsh looks and unkind words; a disposition easily to take offence, and an unwillingness to forgive, all these prevent a "return of prayers."Acceptable prayer never can be offered in the tempest of passion, and there can be no doubt that such prayer is often "hindered"by the inequalities of temper, and the bickerings and strifes that exist in families. Yet how desirable is it that husband and wife should so live together that their prayers may not be hindered! How desirable for their own peace and happiness in that relation; how desirable for the welfare of children! In view of the exposition in this verse we may remark:

(a) that Christianity has done much to elevate the female sex. It has taught that woman is an heir of the grace of life as well as man; that, while she is inferior in physical vigor, she is his equal in the most important respect; that she is a fellow-traveler with him to a higher world; and that in every way she is entitled to all the blessings which redemption confers, as much as he is. This single truth has done more than all other things combined to elevate the female sex, and is all that is needful to raise her from her degradation all over the world.

(b) They, therefore, who desire the elevation of the female sex, who see woman ignorant and degraded in the dark parts of the earth, should be the friends of all well-directed efforts to send the gospel to pagan lands. Every husband who has a pure and intelligent wife, and every father who has an accomplished daughter, and every brother who has a virtuous sister, should seek to spread the gospel abroad. To that gospel only he owes it that he has such a wife, daughter, sister; and that gospel, which has given to him such an intelligent female friend, would elevate woman everywhere to the same condition. The obligation which he owes to religion in this respect can be discharged in no better way than by aiding in diffusing that gospel which would make the wife, the daughter, the sister, everywhere what she is in his own dwelling.

© Especially is this the duty of the Christian female. She owes her elevation in society to Christianity, and what Christianity has made her, it would make the sunken and debased of her own sex all over the earth; and how can she better show her gratitude than by aiding in any and every way in making that same gospel known in the dark parts of the world?

(d) Christianity makes a happy home. Let the principles reign in any family which are here enjoined by the apostle, and that family will be one of intelligence, contentment, and peace. There is a simple and easy way of being happy in the family relation. It is to allow the spirit of Christ and his gospel to reign there. That done, though there be poverty, and disappointment, and sickness, and cares, and losses, yet there will be peace within, for there will be mutual love, and the cheerful hope of a brighter world. Where that is missing, no outward splendor, no costly furniture or viands, no gilded equipage, no long train of servants, no wine, or music, or dances, can secure happiness in a dwelling. With all these things there may be the most corroding passions; in the mansion where these things are, pale disease, disappointment, and death may come, and there shall be nothing to console and support.

Poole: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Dwell with them perform all matrimonial duties to them; by a synecdoche, all the duties of that relation are contained under this one of cohabitation...

Dwell with them perform all matrimonial duties to them; by a synecdoche, all the duties of that relation are contained under this one of cohabitation.

According to knowledge either, according to that knowledge of the Divine will, which by the gospel ye have obtained; or, prudently and wisely, and as becomes those that understand their duty.

Giving honour unto the wife not despising them because of their weakness, or using them as slaves, but respecting them, caring for them, as Mat 15:6 1Ti 5:3using them gently, covering their infirmities.

As unto the weaker vessel weaker than the husbands, and that both in body and mind, as women usually are. In Scripture any instrument is called a vessel, and the wife is here called so, as being not only an ornament, but a help to the husband and family, Gen 2:18 . This he adds as a reason why the husband should give honour to the wife, viz. her being the weaker vessel; weak vessels must be gently handled; the infirmities of children bespeak their pardon when they offend; and those members of the body which we think less honourable, on them we bestow more abundant honour, 1Co 12:23 . It is a part of that prudence according to which men should dwell with their wives, to have the more regard to them because of their infirmities, (in bearing with them and hiding them), lest they should be discouraged, if they find their weakness makes them contemptible.

And as being heirs together: another reason why husbands should give honour to their wives, viz. because though by nature they are weak and unequal to their husbands, yet they are equal to them in respect of their being called to the same grace and glory, there being neither male nor female in Christ, Gal 3:28 .

Of the grace of life i.e. eternal life, which is the gift of grace; or, is to be given out of grace.

That your prayers be not hindered either, that ye be not diverted and hindered from praying; or, that the efficacy of your prayers be not hindered, viz. by those contentions and differences which are like to arise, if you do not dwell with your own wives according to knowledge, and give them the honour that belongs to them.

PBC: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Husbands: Submissive in the Grace of Life For too long in our Western culture Christian husbands have insisted on their wives wearing the submission ...

Husbands: Submissive in the Grace of Life

For too long in our Western culture Christian husbands have insisted on their wives wearing the submission shoe, while they politely ignored the matching shoe that Scripture puts on their foot.

"Likewise"

in this verse applies every principle of Peter’s exhortation to wives equally to husbands! Further Peter adds the exhortations that follow in the verse to the husband’s exhortation. In addition to every point made to the wife Peter directs godly husbands to show special grace and consideration to their wives.

When challenged with this idea, many Christian husbands will immediately go to Eph 5:1-33 and Paul’s command for wives to submit to their husbands. However, a careful study of this lesson will affirm the same reciprocal command from Paul to husbands. Once again in that context, as we see in Peter’s instructions here, Paul adds to the husbands’ duties. To love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her imposes an incredible challenge upon a godly husband. In no instance did Paul {in Eph 5:1-33 or elsewhere} tell husbands that their assignment included constantly reminding their wives to submit. Rather he directed them to show reciprocal submission, as well as to show that special sacrificial love that we see so perfectly modeled in our Lord’s death for his beloved bride, his people. In Peter’s lesson " likewise" applies to men all the rules Peter applied to women in the prior verses. Then he adds the special exhortations that follow in this verse. Christian men would enhance their marriages-and their Christian testimony to a skeptical world-by applying these teachings to their conduct toward their wives.

Rather than establishing the typical competitive spirit in the marriage, New Testament teachings establish a godly partnership between equals. God defines their roles differently, but not unequally.

We should distinguish pretense from reality in this area. I have talked with several godly men whom I deeply respect, along with their wives whom I equally respect. Both the husband and the wife defended the more traditional view of an unequal relationship within the marriage. However, without exception as I observe the actually dynamics of their marriage, I see far more true equality in fact than their words would suggest. Several years ago I heard of a situation in which both the husband and wife verbally defended the traditional role. However, a few minutes later in private conversation with other women the wife chuckled at her success in controlling her husband while leaving him to think he was in control. This wife’s thin façade of obedience to her concept of the Biblical role dishonored both her husband and herself. She wanted to leave the impression of submission, but she had no intention of actually obeying what she perceived God to require of her. One wife offered this quip. " I wholly agree that the husband is to be the head of the family, but the wife is the neck, and the neck can turn the head any way she wishes." These observations sadly reveal the fairly typical disunion in Christian marriages between fact and the words offered by both spouses. Some live closer to the Biblical model than their words suggest, but they seem compelled to give lip-service to the traditional model of an unequal relationship. Consider these Biblical ideas that affirm an equal, though divinely defined, relationship within a godly marriage:

1. Believers are urged to avoid " unequal" relationships with unbelievers, marriage included. {2Co 6:14-18} How can we miss the obvious point? A godly marriage is a union of equals, in this case a union of equal believers.

 2. Paul introduces the lesson in Eph 5:1-33 with a specific command for all believers to submit to each other in the fear of God. {Eph 5:21} In the verses that follow he clearly defines a leadership role for the husband, but not a superiority role.

 3. In our study lesson Peter distinctly defines the godly results of a mutually submissive, respectful marriage; "... heirs together [emphasis mine] of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered."

 4. Lastly, I suggest that the contemporary Christian male idea that a woman should not work outside the home should be exposed to the model of the virtuous woman in Pr 31:1-31. I strongly defend that the woman, particularly this virtuous model woman, will in fact make her family’s interest first in anything that she does, something that many career-driven men could also do to their family’s vast benefit. However, the virtuous woman of Pr 31:1-31 wisely bargains in the shopping center of the culture. She even investigates and purchases real estate! Her public conduct outside the home becomes the basis for her husband’s friends to praise both him and his wife. When we attempt to recreate a Biblical culture, we must face the consistent weight of all Scripture on our cultural model, not merely select the verses that appear to fit our preconceptions.

No doubt many readers will raise a question. Didn’t Peter describe the wife as the " weaker vessel" ?I offer that Peter was referring to the wife’s physical, not to her emotional, intellectual, or spiritual stature. This distinction forms part of the divinely imposed " job descriptions" for husbands and wives. God directs godly husbands to stand between their wives and physical harm. The hormonal distinctions between a man and a woman typically make the man more muscular than the woman. A godly husband will protect his wife from exposure to physical danger in any way he can. Here is an example. A little over a year ago Sandra and I were visiting our daughter, her husband, and our infant grandson. We had walked up the street to their mailbox to get the mail. It was a warm sunny day, so we decided to walk down the street past their home. Suddenly a dog barked and started running towards us, growling, hair standing on end. My first thought was for our grandson, but immediately I jumped in front of our group to put myself between them and the dog. I doubt that I could have prevented the dog from getting by me, but I hoped that he would engage me and spare them. Sandra also took measures to protect our little Noah. What I did was not calculated; it was instinctive. Gratefully the dog’s owner ran out quickly, controlled his dog, and apologized for our fright. I believe this simple experience illustrates Peter’s point regarding the husband-wife role and the husband’s obligation to protect his wife from exposure to physical harm. To interpret this phrase so as to diminish a woman’s intellectual, moral, or spiritual stature is to pour far more into the lesson than Peter intended. Frequently in our culture we see the wife standing tall as the moral leader of the family, much to the husband’s shame? Do we see the Biblical model of moral leadership in the hypocritical standard that many families allow with their children? Where is the Biblical provision that boys may follow a double standard while girls are to live faithfully on the high moral ground? Scripture clearly imposes exactly the same moral expectations on men and women alike. I believe the false double standard between boys and girls that we typically see in families, including Christian families, grows out of the false idea that God made the man somehow superior to the woman. If we fully embrace the divine equality that I here defend, I believe the hypocritical double standard between men and women would disappear.

According to Peter, a mutually respectful and submissive marital relationship will foster a healthy spiritual growth in both husbands and wives. Husbands and wives are " heirs together" of the grace of life. They do not compete for supremacy; rather they accept God’s defined roles with mutual submission, first to God, and then to each other. They strive to fulfill God’s model for their relationship. Rather than modeling the strife of life, they become a godly model for the " grace of life."

Peter caps the lesson with a preeminently spiritual tone, " ... that your prayers be not hindered." As surely as a husband and wife are playing mind games with each other or competing with each other-as with the wife who pretended to submit, but immediately reversed her tone when her husband left the room (or the more honest wife who claimed the role of neck)-their spiritual life, including their intimate prayers to God, will suffer. God makes no distinction in the prayers of a wife or a husband. Are we willing to submit to God and serve as equals? As Christian husbands and wives, will we model honest equality and reject traditional hypocrisy? To Him be the glory!

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Haydock: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Husbands, &c. His advice to husbands: 1. To carry themselves towards their wives with knowledge, prudence, and discretion; 2. Not in any imperious m...

Husbands, &c. His advice to husbands: 1. To carry themselves towards their wives with knowledge, prudence, and discretion; 2. Not in any imperious manner, but treating their wives with respect and honour, though a wife be the weaker vessel both in body and mind; 3. Considering themselves and their wives to be joint heirs with them of God's graces and favours, both in this world and the next; 4. That their prayers and duty to God be not hindered, neither by too great a fondness and compliance, nor by disagreements and dissensions. (Witham)

Gill: 1Pe 3:7 - -- Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them,.... "With your wives", as the Syriac and Ethiopic versions read; which not only included dwelling together in ...

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them,.... "With your wives", as the Syriac and Ethiopic versions read; which not only included dwelling together in the same house, and bedding together in the same bed, but the whole of conjugal conversation, and all the offices and duties incumbent on men in a married state:

according to knowledge; of themselves, and their wives, and the duties belonging to the conjugal state, and the laws of God and man respecting it; and according to their knowledge of the Gospel, and the Christian dispensation, which no ways breaks in upon, but strengthens and encourages to the observance of things belonging to natural religion, and civil life; and according to that superior knowledge of things, which, generally speaking, men have to women; as also wisely, prudently, becoming their characters as men and Christians:

particularly giving honour to the wife; by speaking well of her, and respectfully to her, and by deeds as well as words; not only by clothing her in a decent and becoming manner, suitable to her station; but by providing everything honest and comely for her, food and raiment, a suitable maintenance, all the necessaries, conveniences, and delights of life, that are laudable and proper; in which sense the word honour is used in 1Ti 5:3 and this was agreeably to the doctrine of the Jews q, who say,

"let a man always take care בכבוד אשתו, "of the glory of his wife"; for there is no blessing found in a man's house, but for the sake of his wife, as it is said, Gen 12:16 "and he entreated Abraham well for her sake": and Rabba used to say to the citizens, אוקירו לנשייכו, "honour your wives", that ye may be rich.

And indeed this is what they promised in their marriage contract, which runs thus r:

"be thou unto me for a wife, according to the law of Moses and Israel, and I, by the word of heaven, or God, will worship, ואוקיר, "and honour", and nourish, and take care of thee, according to the custom of the Jews, who worship, and "honour", and nourish, and take care of their wives.

As unto the weaker vessel; so in 1Th 4:4 the wife is called a vessel; see Gill on 1Th 4:4, and here "the weaker"; being so for the most part, both as to strength of body, and endowments of mind; and therefore to be used gently and tenderly, and not be treated with neglect and contempt, or with inhumanity and severity; but as, in every state and condition, the strong are to bear the infirmities of the weak; so a man should bear with, and accommodate himself to the infirmities of his wife, and hide them as much as he can, and not expose them, nor despise her on account of them. It is a saying of the Jews s,

"if thy wife be short of stature, bow thyself, and whisper to her.

The meaning of the proverb is, that he ought to suit himself to her capacity and weakness:

and as being heirs together of the grace of life; not of a natural life, and the good things of it; though husbands and wives partake of the same kind of life, and have a right unto, and share in the same necessaries of life; so Adam and Eve were partakers of the same life, and sharers of the same benefits; and which is a reason indeed why they ought to live lovingly together: but something more is intended; not the external gifts of the Spirit, which, unless in some few instances, are bestowed on men, and not on women; nor the Gospel, and the ordinances of it, which are the means of grace and life; though men and women, called by grace, have an equal right to them, and enjoy them; see Gal 3:28 but grace here, and glory hereafter, are here meant. Some copies, as the Alexandrian, and others, read, "heirs together of the manifold grace of life"; God's own people, without any difference as to sex, as men and women, equally share in grace, as it signifies the love and favour of God; which is the same to all the objects, as to the date of it, which is from everlasting, one not being loved before another; and as to the quality of it, which is free, sovereign, special, discriminating and unchangeable, one being loved not with one sort of love, another with another; and as to the quantity of it, it not admitting of more or less; and as to the duration, which is for ever: and so they are heirs of it, as it denotes the blessings of grace; being equally heirs of, and sharers in electing, redeeming, justifying, pardoning, and adopting grace: and as it may intend the internal graces of the Spirit, as faith, hope, and love; which as to their principles are the same in all the saints, though different as to the degree of the exercise of them: and which may be called "the grace of life"; or "living grace", as some copies and the Complutensian edition read, and so the Arabic version, because by it men and women, who were dead in trespasses and sins, are quickened; and in distinction to counterfeit grace, which differs as much from true grace, as the picture of a man from a living man; and because it lives for ever, and never dies, and gives a meetness for eternal life, which it springs up to, issues in, and is inseparably connected with. Moreover, by it may be meant eternal life and salvation, of which the saints, without any difference as to sex, are heirs of: so some copies read, "heirs of manifold grace, and life"; by the former, meaning grace here, and by the latter, glory hereafter; which is a life of vision of God, and uninterrupted communion with him; of perfection and pleasure, and which will last for ever; and may be called

the grace of life, because it is the free gift of God's grace: and agreeably the Syriac version renders it, "the gift of eternal life"; and the Ethiopic version, glorious life: and this is represented as an inheritance, being what belongs only to the children; and which they have not by their own works, as an acquisition of theirs, but by the free grace of their heavenly Father, and as his gift and bequest unto them. Now all the saints, of whatever state, condition, or sex, are equally heirs of this inheritance; for there is but one inheritance, one kingdom, one crown of glory, which all shall enjoy; and whatever disparity there may be, particularly between husband and wife, in their natural relation, there is none in the things of grace, and with regard to the kingdom of glory; and which is an argument why husbands should dwell peaceably and comfortably with their wives, and give all due honour to them, since they are upon a par in spiritual things, there being neither male nor female in Christ Jesus, and because they are now joint heirs of, and shall equally share in eternal life and happiness,

That your prayers be not hindered: as they would be were they not to dwell together; or should not the husband give honour to his wife, and take care of her as he ought to do: hence would arise strifes and quarrels, when they could not cordially, and to edification, join together in prayer; nor would such prayers, put up in wrath, be acceptable unto God, who requires that men should lift up holy hands everywhere, whether in public, or in private, in God's house, or in their own houses, without wrath and doubting. From hence we may observe, that family prayer is a duty incumbent on professors of religion, and great care should be taken that it be not neglected and hindered,

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Commentary -- Verse Notes / Footnotes

NET Notes: 1Pe 3:7 Grk “so that your prayers may not be hindered.” Because of the length and complexity of the Greek, this clause was translated as a separat...

Geneva Bible: 1Pe 3:7 ( 6 ) Likewise, ye husbands, ( c ) dwell with [them] according to ( d ) knowledge, ( 7 ) giving ( e ) honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker ( f ) v...

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Commentary -- Verse Range Notes

TSK Synopsis: 1Pe 3:1-22 - --1 He teaches the duty of wives and husbands to each other;8 exhorting all men to unity and love;14 and to suffer persecution.19 He declares also the b...

MHCC: 1Pe 3:1-7 - --The wife must discharge her duty to her own husband, though he obey not the word. We daily see how narrowly evil men watch the ways and lives of profe...

Matthew Henry: 1Pe 3:1-7 - -- The apostle having treated of the duties of subjects to their sovereigns, and of servants to their masters, proceeds to explain the duty of husbands...

Barclay: 1Pe 3:7 - --Short as this passage is, it has in it much of the very essence of the Christian ethic. That ethic is what may be called a reciprocal ethic. It nev...

Constable: 1Pe 2:11--4:12 - --III. The responsibilities of the christian individually 2:11--4:11 Since Christians have a particular vocation i...

Constable: 1Pe 2:13--3:13 - --B. Respect for Others 2:13-3:12 This section of the letter clarifies what it means to function obedientl...

Constable: 1Pe 3:7 - --4. Husbands' respect for their wives 3:7 Why did Peter write more about the conduct of women (vv...

College: 1Pe 3:1-22 - --1 PETER 3 D. WIVES, SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBANDS (3:1-6) 1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe t...

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Introduction / Outline

Robertson: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) THE FIRST EPISTLE GENERAL OF PETER ABOUT a.d. 65 By Way of Introduction The Author The Epistle is not anonymous, but claims to be written by "...

JFB: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) ITS GENUINENESS is attested by 2Pe 3:1. On the authority of Second Peter, see the Introduction. Also by POLYCARP (in EUSEBIUS [Ecclesiastical History,...

JFB: 1 Peter (Outline) ADDRESS TO THE ELECTED OF THE GODHEAD: THANKSGIVING FOR THE LIVING HOPE TO WHICH WE ARE BEGOTTEN, PRODUCING JOY AMIDST SUFFERINGS: THIS SALVATION AN ...

TSK: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) As the design of this Epistle is excellent, remarks Dr. Macknight, so is its execution, in the judgment of the best critics, does not fall short of it...

TSK: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) Overview 1Pe 3:1, He teaches the duty of wives and husbands to each other; 1Pe 3:8, exhorting all men to unity and love; 1Pe 3:14, and to suffer p...

Poole: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) PETER CHAPTER 3

MHCC: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) The same great doctrines, as in St. Paul's epistles, are here applied to same practical purposes. And this epistle is remarkable for the sweetness, ge...

MHCC: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) (1Pe 3:1-7) The duties of wives and husbands. (1Pe 3:8-13) Christians exhorted to agree. (1Pe 3:14-22) And encouraged to patience under persecutions...

Matthew Henry: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) An Exposition, with Practical Observations, of The First Epistle General of Peter Two epistles we have enrolled in the sacred canon of the scripture w...

Matthew Henry: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) Wherein the apostle describes the duties of husbands and wives one to another, beginning with the duty of the wife (1Pe 3:1-7). He exhorts Christia...

Barclay: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) INTRODUCTION TO THE FIRST LETTER OF PETER The Catholic Or General Epistles First Peter belongs to that group of New Testament letters which are k...

Barclay: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) The Silent Preaching Of A Lovely Life (1Pe_3:1-2) The True Adornment (1Pe_3:3-6) The Husband's Obligation (1Pe_3:7) (1) The Marks Of The Christian...

Constable: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) Introduction Historical background This epistle claims that the Apostle Peter wrote it...

Constable: 1 Peter (Outline) Outline I. Introduction 1:1-2 II. The identity of Christians 1:3-2:10 A....

Constable: 1 Peter 1 Peter Bibliography Bailey, Mark L., and Thomas L. Constable. The New Testament Explorer. Nashville: Word Publ...

Haydock: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) THE FIRST EPISTLE OF ST. PETER, THE APOSTLE. INTRODUCTION. This first Epistle of St. Peter, though brief, contains much doctrine concerning fa...

Gill: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) INTRODUCTION TO 1 PETER That Simon, called Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ, was the writer of this epistle, is not questioned by any; nor was the...

Gill: 1 Peter 3 (Chapter Introduction) INTRODUCTION TO 1 PETER 3 In this chapter the apostle instructs wives how to behave towards their husbands, and husbands how to behave towards thei...

College: 1 Peter (Book Introduction) INTRODUCTION This commentary is written for the general reader with a serious interest in Scripture. Its purpose is to provide a historical interpret...

College: 1 Peter (Outline) OUTLINE I. THE GREETING - 1:1-2 II. A CALL TO BE HOLY - 1:3-2:10 A. The Hope of Salvation - 1:3-9 B. The Glory of This Salvation - 1:10-1...

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