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Text -- 2 Samuel 13:1-16 (NET)
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His sister by father and mother.
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And therefore diligently kept, so he could not get private converse with her.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:5 - -- So he calls her, to prevent the suspicion of any dishonest design upon so near a relation.
So he calls her, to prevent the suspicion of any dishonest design upon so near a relation.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:5 - -- Pretending, his stomach was so nice, that he could eat nothing but what he saw dressed, and that by a person whom he much esteemed.
Pretending, his stomach was so nice, that he could eat nothing but what he saw dressed, and that by a person whom he much esteemed.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:10 - -- Amnon lying upon his couch in one chamber where the company were with him, where also she made the cakes before him, first sends all out of that room,...
Amnon lying upon his couch in one chamber where the company were with him, where also she made the cakes before him, first sends all out of that room, and then rises from his couch, and, upon some pretence, goes into another secret chamber.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Whom nature both teaches to abhor such thoughts and obliges to defend me from such a mischief with thy utmost hazard, if another should attempt it.
Whom nature both teaches to abhor such thoughts and obliges to defend me from such a mischief with thy utmost hazard, if another should attempt it.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Thou shouldst abhor it, if I were willing; but to add violence, is abominable.
Thou shouldst abhor it, if I were willing; but to add violence, is abominable.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Among God's people who are taught better things; who also will be infinitely reproached for such a base action.
Among God's people who are taught better things; who also will be infinitely reproached for such a base action.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:13 - -- How can I either endure or avoid the shame? Fools - That is, contemptible to all the people, whereas now thou art heir apparent of the crown.
How can I either endure or avoid the shame? Fools - That is, contemptible to all the people, whereas now thou art heir apparent of the crown.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:13 - -- This she spoke, because she thought her royal father would dispense with it, upon this extraordinary occasion, to save his first-born son's life:
This she spoke, because she thought her royal father would dispense with it, upon this extraordinary occasion, to save his first-born son's life:
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:15 - -- By the just judgment of God both upon Amnon and David, that so the sin might be made publick, and way for the succeeding tragedies.
By the just judgment of God both upon Amnon and David, that so the sin might be made publick, and way for the succeeding tragedies.
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Wesley: 2Sa 13:16 - -- This she might truly say, because though the other was in itself a greater sin, yet this was an act of greater cruelty, and a greater calamity to her ...
This she might truly say, because though the other was in itself a greater sin, yet this was an act of greater cruelty, and a greater calamity to her because it exposed her to publick infamy and contempt, and besides, it turned a private offence into a publick scandal, to the great dishonour of God and of his people, and especially of all the royal family.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:2 - -- Unmarried daughters were kept in close seclusion from the company of men; no strangers, nor even their relatives of the other sex, being permitted to ...
Unmarried daughters were kept in close seclusion from the company of men; no strangers, nor even their relatives of the other sex, being permitted to see them without the presence of witnesses. Of course, Amnon must have seen Tamar, for he had conceived a violent passion for her, which, though forbidden by the law (Lev 18:11), yet with the sanction of Abraham's example (Gen 20:12), and the common practice in neighboring countries for princes to marry their half sisters, he seems not to have considered an improper connection. But he had no means of making it known to her, and the pain of that disappointment preying upon his mind produced a visible change in his appearance and health.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:3 - -- Or Shammah (1Sa 16:9). By the counsel and contrivance of this scheming cousin a plan was devised for obtaining an unrestricted interview with the obje...
Or Shammah (1Sa 16:9). By the counsel and contrivance of this scheming cousin a plan was devised for obtaining an unrestricted interview with the object of his attachment.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:4 - -- In Eastern countries, where polygamy prevails, the girls are considered to be under the special care and protection of their uterine brother, who is t...
In Eastern countries, where polygamy prevails, the girls are considered to be under the special care and protection of their uterine brother, who is the guardian of their interests and their honor, even more than their father himself (see on Gen. 34:6-25).
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JFB: 2Sa 13:6-8 - -- The Orientals are great adepts in feigning sickness, whenever they have any object to accomplish.
The Orientals are great adepts in feigning sickness, whenever they have any object to accomplish.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:6-8 - -- To the king Amnon spoke of Tamar as "his sister," a term artfully designed to hoodwink his father; and the request appeared so natural, the delicate a...
To the king Amnon spoke of Tamar as "his sister," a term artfully designed to hoodwink his father; and the request appeared so natural, the delicate appetite of a sick man requiring to be humored, that the king promised to send her. The cakes seem to have been a kind of fancy bread, in the preparation of which Oriental ladies take great delight. Tamar, flattered by the invitation, lost no time in rendering the required service in the house of her sick brother.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:12-14 - -- The remonstrances and arguments of Tamar were so affecting and so strong, that had not Amnon been violently goaded on by the lustful passion of which ...
The remonstrances and arguments of Tamar were so affecting and so strong, that had not Amnon been violently goaded on by the lustful passion of which he had become the slave, they must have prevailed with him to desist from his infamous purpose. In bidding him, however, "speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from thee," it is probable that she urged this as her last resource, saying anything she thought would please him, in order to escape for the present out of his hands.
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JFB: 2Sa 13:15 - -- It is not unusual for persons instigated by violent and irregular passions to go from one extreme to another. In Amnon's case the sudden revulsion is ...
It is not unusual for persons instigated by violent and irregular passions to go from one extreme to another. In Amnon's case the sudden revulsion is easily accounted for; the atrocity of his conduct, with all the feelings of shame, remorse, and dread of exposure and punishment, now burst upon his mind, rendering the presence of Tamar intolerably painful to him.
Clarke: 2Sa 13:1 - -- Whose name was Tamar - Tamar was the daughter of David and Maacah, daughter of the king of Geshur, and the uterine sister of Absalom. Amnon was Davi...
Whose name was Tamar - Tamar was the daughter of David and Maacah, daughter of the king of Geshur, and the uterine sister of Absalom. Amnon was David’ s eldest son by Ahinoam. She was therefore sister to Amnon only by the father’ s side, i.e., half-sister; but whole sister to Absalom.
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Clarke: 2Sa 13:2 - -- Amnon was so vexed - for she was a virgin - It has been well remarked that "the passion of love is nowhere so wasting and vexatious, as where it is ...
Amnon was so vexed - for she was a virgin - It has been well remarked that "the passion of love is nowhere so wasting and vexatious, as where it is unlawful. A quick sense of guilt, especially where it is enormous, as in the present instance, strikes the soul with horror; and the impossibility of an innocent gratification loads that horror with desperation: a conflict too cruel and too dreadful for human bearing."- Delaney.
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Clarke: 2Sa 13:3 - -- Jonadab was a very subtle man - And most diabolic advice did he give to his cousin. We talk of the simplicity and excellence of primitive times! "Sa...
Jonadab was a very subtle man - And most diabolic advice did he give to his cousin. We talk of the simplicity and excellence of primitive times! "Say not thou what is the cause that the former days were better than these."Take them altogether, we may thank God that they are past, and pray him that they may never return.
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Clarke: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Nay, my brother - There is something exceedingly tender and persuasive in this speech of Tamar; but Amnon was a mere brute, and it was all lost on h...
Nay, my brother - There is something exceedingly tender and persuasive in this speech of Tamar; but Amnon was a mere brute, and it was all lost on him.
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Clarke: 2Sa 13:13 - -- Speak unto the king - So it appears that she thought that the king, her father, would give her to him as wife. This is another strong mark of indeli...
Speak unto the king - So it appears that she thought that the king, her father, would give her to him as wife. This is another strong mark of indelicacy in those simple but barbarous times. There might have been some excuse for such connections under the patriarchal age, but there was none now. But perhaps she said this only to divert him from his iniquitous purpose, that she might get out of his hands.
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Clarke: 2Sa 13:15 - -- Hated her exceedingly - Amnon’ s conduct to his sister was not only brutal but inexplicable. It would be easy to form conjectures concerning th...
Hated her exceedingly - Amnon’ s conduct to his sister was not only brutal but inexplicable. It would be easy to form conjectures concerning the cause, but we can arrive at no certainty.
Defender -> 2Sa 13:1
Defender: 2Sa 13:1 - -- Both Absalom and Tamar were children of Maacah, one of David's many wives. Amnon was David's eldest son, born of Ahinoam (2Sa 3:2). The tragic events ...
Both Absalom and Tamar were children of Maacah, one of David's many wives. Amnon was David's eldest son, born of Ahinoam (2Sa 3:2). The tragic events described in this chapter, Amnon's rape of Tamar and murder by Absalom, followed by the scattering of David's other sons were at least in part an outgrowth of the polygamous relationships contracted by David. Even though he was a godly man in many respects, David took many wives and concubines, and he should have known this was not pleasing to God (Gen 2:18, Gen 2:21-24)."
TSK: 2Sa 13:1 - -- am 2972, bc 1032, A.Ex, Is, 459
Absalom : 2Sa 3:2, 2Sa 3:3; 1Ch 3:2
a fair sister : 2Sa 11:2; Gen 6:2, Gen 39:6, Gen 39:7; Pro 6:25, Pro 31:30
Tamar :...
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TSK: 2Sa 13:2 - -- vexed : 1Ki 21:4; Son 5:8; 2Co 7:10
Amnon : etc. Heb. it was marvellous, or hidden, in the eyes of Amnon
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TSK: 2Sa 13:3 - -- a friend : Gen 38:1, Gen 38:20; Jdg 14:20; Est 5:10, Est 5:14, Est 6:13; Pro 19:6
Shimeah : 2Sa 13:32; 1Sa 16:9
Shimeah : subtil man, 2Sa 14:2, 2Sa 14...
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TSK: 2Sa 13:4 - -- Why art : 1Ki 21:7; Est 5:13, Est 5:14; Luk 12:32
lean : Heb. thin
from day to day : Heb. morning by morning, I love. Isa 3:9; Jer 8:12; Mic 7:3
my br...
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TSK: 2Sa 13:5 - -- Lay thee : 2Sa 16:21-23, 2Sa 17:1-4; Psa 50:18, Psa 50:19; Pro 19:27; Mar 6:24, Mar 6:25; Act 23:15
Lay thee : 2Sa 16:21-23, 2Sa 17:1-4; Psa 50:18, Psa 50:19; Pro 19:27; Mar 6:24, Mar 6:25; Act 23:15
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TSK: 2Sa 13:8 - -- she took : Dr. Russell says, ""The Eastern ladies often wash their own hands, prepare cakes, pastry, etc. in their apartments; and some few particular...
she took : Dr. Russell says, ""The Eastern ladies often wash their own hands, prepare cakes, pastry, etc. in their apartments; and some few particular dishes are cooked by themselves, but not in their apartmentscaps1 . ocaps0 n such occasions, they go to some room near the kitchen."
flour : or, paste
and made cakes : Rather, as Mr. Parkhurst renders, ""and tossed it (
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TSK: 2Sa 13:12 - -- force me : Heb. humble me, Gen 34:2; Deu 22:29
no such thing ought : Heb. it ought not so, Lev 18:9, Lev 18:11, Lev 20:17
folly : Gen 34:7; Jdg 19:23,...
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:1 - -- The history here, down to the end of 2 Sam. 23 (excepting a few particulars), is omitted in the Book of Chronicles.
The history here, down to the end of 2 Sam. 23 (excepting a few particulars), is omitted in the Book of Chronicles.
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:3 - -- Shimeah - Called Shamma (marginal reference), was Jesse’ s third son. Subtil - literally, wise. The word is generally used in a good...
Shimeah - Called Shamma (marginal reference), was Jesse’ s third son.
Subtil - literally, wise. The word is generally used in a good sense, but here, and in Job 5:13, it means crafty.
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:5 - -- Make thyself sick - " Feign thyself to be ill."(Compare 2Sa 14:2.) That I may see it - He was to feign that he could not fancy anything th...
Make thyself sick - " Feign thyself to be ill."(Compare 2Sa 14:2.)
That I may see it - He was to feign that he could not fancy anything that came from the kitchen, but that if he saw it cooked he should be able to eat it.
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:6-9 - -- Make me cakes ... a pan - The words here used occur nowhere else, and the etymology is doubtful. Some particular kind of cake or pudding is mea...
Make me cakes ... a pan - The words here used occur nowhere else, and the etymology is doubtful. Some particular kind of cake or pudding is meant 2Sa 13:8, called a
The dish into which she poured the
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Tamar’ s words are a verbal quotation from Gen 34:7. The natural inference is that Tamar knew the passage in Genesis, and wished to profit by t...
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:13 - -- My shame - Better, "my reproach."Compare Gen 30:23; Gen 34:14; 1Sa 11:2. Speak unto the king ... - It cannot be inferred with certainty f...
My shame - Better, "my reproach."Compare Gen 30:23; Gen 34:14; 1Sa 11:2.
Speak unto the king ... - It cannot be inferred with certainty from this that marriages were usual among half brothers and sisters in the time of David. The Levitical law forbade them (marginal reference), and Tamar may have merely wished to temporize. On the other hand, the debasing and unhumanizing institution of the harem, itself contrary to the law of Moses Deu 17:17, may well have led to other deviations from its precepts, and the precedent of Abraham Gen 20:12 may have seemed to give some sanction to this particular breach of it.
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Barnes: 2Sa 13:16 - -- The sense of the passage probably is, "And she spake with him on account of this great wrong in sending me away, greater than the other wrong which ...
The sense of the passage probably is, "And she spake with him on account of this great wrong in sending me away, greater than the other wrong which thou hast done me (said she), but he hearkened not unto her."The Hebrew text is probably corrupt, and the writer blends Tamar’ s words with his own narrative.
A fair sister his sister by father and mother: see 2Sa 3:3 .
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Poole: 2Sa 13:2 - -- He fell sick the passion of his mind disturbed his body, as is usual. She was a virgin, and therefore diligently kept, so as he could not get private...
He fell sick the passion of his mind disturbed his body, as is usual. She was a virgin, and therefore diligently kept, so as he could not get private converse with her; and withal modest, and abhorring any compliance with his lustful desires, both from her inclination and interest.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:4 - -- From day to day Heb. from morning to morning ; for whereas in the day he had many diversions and refreshments, in the night he was pestered with tor...
From day to day Heb. from morning to morning ; for whereas in the day he had many diversions and refreshments, in the night he was pestered with tormenting thoughts and passions; the effects whereof appeared in his countenance in the morning.
Wilt thou not tell me thy sure friend and faithful servant, who am ready to advise and assist thee?
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Poole: 2Sa 13:5 - -- Let my sister Tamar come so he calls her, to prevent the suspicion of any dishonest design upon so near a relation, whom neither nature nor respect a...
Let my sister Tamar come so he calls her, to prevent the suspicion of any dishonest design upon so near a relation, whom neither nature nor respect and affection would permit him to vitiate.
Eat it at her hand pretending that his stomach was so nice that he could eat nothing but what he saw dressed, and that by a person whom he much affected.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:7 - -- It is strange that so wise and sagacious a person as David did not see through so vain a pretence; but that must be ascribed partly to the instincts...
It is strange that so wise and sagacious a person as David did not see through so vain a pretence; but that must be ascribed partly to the instincts of nature, which generally preserve near relations from such monstrous actions; and partly to God’ s providence, which blinded David’ s mind, that he might bring upon him the designed and threatened judgments.
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He was laid down upon his bed or rather his couch.
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Poured them out out of the frying-pan into the dish.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:10 - -- Into the chamber an inner chamber; either,
1. That wherein he lay sick upon his bed, where also Tamar made the cakes in his sight, who then carried ...
Into the chamber an inner chamber; either,
1. That wherein he lay sick upon his bed, where also Tamar made the cakes in his sight, who then carried them out into the next room, to bring them in again when he called for them. Or rather,
2. Another chamber; Ammnon lying upon his couch in one chamber where the company were with him, where also she made the cakes before him, first sendeth all out of that room, and then riseth from his couch, and, upon some pretence, goes into another secret chamber, where he might have the better opportunity for his intended wickedness.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Nay, my brother whom nature both teacheth to abhor such thoughts, and obligeth to defend me from such a mischief with thy utmost hazard if another sh...
Nay, my brother whom nature both teacheth to abhor such thoughts, and obligeth to defend me from such a mischief with thy utmost hazard if another should attempt it.
Do not force me: thou shouldst abhor it, if I were willing; but to add violence to thy filthiness is abominable.
In Israel among God’ s people, who are taught better things; who also will be infinitely reproached for such a base action.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:13 - -- Whither shall I cause my shame to go? how can I either endure or avoid the shame and reproach of it?
As one of the fools in Israel i.e. loathsome a...
Whither shall I cause my shame to go? how can I either endure or avoid the shame and reproach of it?
As one of the fools in Israel i.e. loathsome and contemptible to all the people, whereas now thou art in great reputation, and heir apparent of the crown.
He will not withhold me from thee: this she spake, either because she did not understand or not remember that the law of God prohibited such marriages between a brother and his half-sister; or because she thought her royal father could or would dispense with it, upon this extraordinary occasion, to save his first-born son’ s life; or that by this pretence she might free herself from her present and most urgent danger, knowing she should have opportunity enough to prevent other mischiefs.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:15 - -- Then Amnon hated her exceedingly partly because, his lust being now satisfied, his mind and conscience had a true and clear prospect and deep sense o...
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly partly because, his lust being now satisfied, his mind and conscience had a true and clear prospect and deep sense of the natural turpitude and baseness of the action, and of that shame, and contempt, and loss, and mischief which was likely to follow it, and consequently an utter aversion from her who had been the instrument and occasion of his sin; and principally by the just judgment of God, both upon Amnon and David, that so the sin might be made public, and way made for the succeeding tragedies; for otherwise it would probably produce love and kindness to her, as it did in another, Gen 34:2,3 ; especially, in him, whom both nature, and interest, and even lust itself, obliged to allay her grief and shame by all possible demonstrations of kindness.
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Poole: 2Sa 13:16 - -- There is no cause to wit, given thee by me.
This evil is greater than the other: this she might truly say, because though the other was in itself a...
There is no cause to wit, given thee by me.
This evil is greater than the other: this she might truly say, because though the other was in itself a greater sin, yet this was an act of greater inhumanity and barbarous cruelty, and a greater wrong and calamity to her, (which she means by evil,) because it exposed her to public infamy and contempt, as if she had been an impudent strumpet, and had either enticed him to the sin, or at least consented to it; and besides, it turned a private offence into a public scandal, to the great dishonour of God and of his people Israel, and especially of all the royal family, and was likely to cause direful passions, and breaches, and mischiefs among them.
Thamar was born of Maacha, as well as Absalom.
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:2 - -- Her. He had seen her on some solemn occasions, when virgins were allowed to go out, well attended. At other times they were so strictly guarded, th...
Her. He had seen her on some solemn occasions, when virgins were allowed to go out, well attended. At other times they were so strictly guarded, that Amnon thought it almost impossible to gratify his passion, (Calmet) which made him grow pale. He afterwards feigned himself to be more sickly than he really was, ver. 6. (Haydock)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:3 - -- A very wise man. That is, a crafty and subtle man: for the counsel he gave on this occasion shews that his wisdom was but carnal and worldly. (Chal...
A very wise man. That is, a crafty and subtle man: for the counsel he gave on this occasion shews that his wisdom was but carnal and worldly. (Challoner) ---
Jonadab seems to be styled Jonathan, chap. xxi. 21. (Calmet)
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King? to whom every indulgence must be allowed. (Menochius)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:5 - -- To me. Hebrew, "and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it, " &c. (Haydock) ---
He pretends to be disguste...
To me. Hebrew, "and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it, " &c. (Haydock) ---
He pretends to be disgusted with food, (Calmet) unless he see his sister make it ready. (Haydock)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:6 - -- Messes. Hebrew, "cakes, or cordials;" what which refresh the heart, and give an appetite. The queen of Perdiccas, of Macedon, baked bread for her...
Messes. Hebrew, "cakes, or cordials;" what which refresh the heart, and give an appetite. The queen of Perdiccas, of Macedon, baked bread for her servants. (Herodotus viii. 137.) (Genesis xviii. 6.)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:9 - -- Out. This conveys the idea of something liquid. (Calmet) ---
It was a thin wafer, (Haydock) or cake, of which there were different sorts.
Out. This conveys the idea of something liquid. (Calmet) ---
It was a thin wafer, (Haydock) or cake, of which there were different sorts.
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:10 - -- Chamber. Hebrew Chadera, "bed-place," (Canticle of Canticles i. 4.) where Amnon was lying. (Calmet)
Chamber. Hebrew Chadera, "bed-place," (Canticle of Canticles i. 4.) where Amnon was lying. (Calmet)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:12 - -- Folly, or impiety, so directly contrary to the law, Leviticus xviii. 6. and 9. and 11. (Haydock)
Folly, or impiety, so directly contrary to the law, Leviticus xviii. 6. and 9. and 11. (Haydock)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:13 - -- Thee. Was she ignorant that such marriages could not be allowed? (Calmet) ---
Some think she was. (Grotius) (Menochius) ---
Others believe that...
Thee. Was she ignorant that such marriages could not be allowed? (Calmet) ---
Some think she was. (Grotius) (Menochius) ---
Others believe that, in her present situation, she said what first came into her head, to get out of the hands of her brother. The Rabbins pretend that she was conceived before David married her mother, and that the latter was a pagan; so that they suppose there was no relationship between Thamar and Amnon. But this is all asserted without proof. (Calmet)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:15 - -- Before. Such changes are not unfrequent in those who give way to disordered passions, as Aristotle (prob. iv.) proves. Semiramis slew her lovers, a...
Before. Such changes are not unfrequent in those who give way to disordered passions, as Aristotle (prob. iv.) proves. Semiramis slew her lovers, and among the rest her own son. (Tirinus) ---
God caused Amnon to be stung with remorse, and the evil spirit pushed him on to extremities, which filled the palace with scandal and bloodshed. (Menochius)
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Haydock: 2Sa 13:16 - -- Greater, as being more public; (Tirinus) and all would think her guilty of some horrible misdemeanor. (Haydock) ---
It made the divulging of the cr...
Greater, as being more public; (Tirinus) and all would think her guilty of some horrible misdemeanor. (Haydock) ---
It made the divulging of the crime in some degree necessary. (Menochius) ---
Unhappy woman! why did she not cry out, at least, before the perpetration of the act, as the law directed? (Deuteronomy xxii. 24.) (Salien, the year of the world 3000.)
Gill: 2Sa 13:1 - -- And it came to pass after this,.... After the sin of David with Bathsheba, his repentance for it, and pardon of it, and the birth of Solomon as a toke...
And it came to pass after this,.... After the sin of David with Bathsheba, his repentance for it, and pardon of it, and the birth of Solomon as a token of reconciliation; yet after all this the divine threatenings must take place; they had begun already in the death of the child begotten in adultery, and others here follow:
that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; she was his sister both by father and mother's side; the mother o, f them was Maacah, the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur; she was a very comely person, her name signifies a palm tree:
and Amnon the son of David loved her; not in an honourable way, to make her his wife, but in a lustful manner, to make an harlot of her; he was David's eldest son by Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, 2Sa 3:2.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:2 - -- And Amnon was so vexed,.... Distressed, straitened, and perplexed in his mind through unruly and unbridled lusts that raged in him:
that he fell si...
And Amnon was so vexed,.... Distressed, straitened, and perplexed in his mind through unruly and unbridled lusts that raged in him:
that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; as Antiochus son of Seleucus did for his mother in law Stratonice, who, to cure him of it, was delivered to him by his father s:
for she was a virgin; and so kept very recluse from the company of men, that he could not come at her; so Philo t, speaking of the Jewish women, and particularly virgins, says, that they were shut up in their chambers, and through modesty shun the sight of men, even those of their own house; hence they are called
and Amnon thought it hard for him to do anything to her; that it was difficult to have access to her, almost impossible, what he despaired of, and what, if attained to, would be wonderful and amazing; he was at his wits' end how to contrive any scheme to get at her, and obtain his desire.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:3 - -- But Amnon had a friend,.... Though in the issue his friendship proved his ruin:
whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah, David's brother; so th...
But Amnon had a friend,.... Though in the issue his friendship proved his ruin:
whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah, David's brother; so that they were own cousins, the same with Shammah, 1Sa 16:9,
and Jonadab was a very subtle man; a very penetrating man into the dispositions of men, and could judge by their countenances what they were, and the affections of their minds, and had a talent in forming schemes; he was wise to do evil and was wickedly cunning.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:4 - -- And he said unto him, why art thou, being the king's son,
lean from day today?.... Or "morning by morning", w; he was the king's eldest son, heir...
And he said unto him, why art thou, being the king's son,
lean from day today?.... Or "morning by morning", w; he was the king's eldest son, heir to the crown, fed at his table, had everything to make him gay and cheerful, and yet pined away; his flesh wasted x, his countenance waxed wan and pale, and especially in the mornings; in the daytime he met with diversions which, in some measure, took off his thoughts from the object his mind was impressed with, but in the night season they were continually employed about it; so that he could have no rest and sleep, which made him look ruefully in the morning; and this man had a suspicion of his case, and therefore put this and the following question to him:
wilt thou not tell me? who am so nearly related to thee, and who have such a particular value and affection for thee:
and Amnon said unto him, I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister; he does not call her his sister, but Absalom's sister, to lessen his sin of unlawful love to her, which, being thus closely pressed, and by a friend, he could not conceal.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:5 - -- And Jonadab said unto him,.... Being a subtle man, he presently formed a scheme to relieve him, and open a way for the enjoyment of what he desired:
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And Jonadab said unto him,.... Being a subtle man, he presently formed a scheme to relieve him, and open a way for the enjoyment of what he desired:
lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick; feign thyself sick, pretend that thou art so, by lying down on the bed, and making complaints of one kind or another:
and when thy father cometh to see thee; as he quickly would, after hearing of his illness, being very affectionate to his children:
say unto him, I pray thee let, my sister Tamar come, and give me meat; here he is directed to call her not Absalom's sister, but his own, the more to cover his ill design upon her:
and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand; pretending that his stomach was very weak and squeamish, that he could not eat anything which his servants dressed for him, and which he did not see done with his own eyes.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:6 - -- So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick,.... Took the advice of his cousin Jonadab, and acted according to it:
and when the king was come to see h...
So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick,.... Took the advice of his cousin Jonadab, and acted according to it:
and when the king was come to see him; as he quickly did, after he had heard of his illness:
Amnon said unto the king; who perhaps inquired of his appetite, whether he could eat anything, and what:
I pray thee let my sister Tamar come; he calls her sister, as Jonadab had directed, the more to blind his design; though it is much that so sagacious a man as David was had not seen through it; but the notion he had of his being really ill, and the near relation between him and Tamar, forbad his entertaining the least suspicion of that kind:
and make me a couple of cakes in my sight; heart cakes, as the word may be thought to signify; called so either from the form of them, such as We have with us, or from the effect of them, comforting and refreshing the heart:
that I may eat at her hand; both what is made by her hand, and received from it.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:7 - -- Then David sent home to Tamar,.... Who perhaps was not in the king's palace, but at her brother Absalom's house, 2Sa 13:20,
saying, go now to thy b...
Then David sent home to Tamar,.... Who perhaps was not in the king's palace, but at her brother Absalom's house, 2Sa 13:20,
saying, go now to thy brother Amnon's house; who also had a separate house and equipage, being the king's son, and his eldest son:
and dress him meat; such as he may desire, and his stomach will bear.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:8 - -- So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house,.... In obedience to the king's commands, and in affection to her brother, with an innocent breast, having ...
So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house,.... In obedience to the king's commands, and in affection to her brother, with an innocent breast, having no suspicion of any design upon her chastity:
(and he was laid down); upon a couch or bed in his chamber, as being sick as was pretended, into which she was introduced:
and she took flour, and kneaded it; made it into a paste:
and made cakes in his sight; a kind of fritters of them, as in the Talmud y:
and did bake the cakes: or fried them in a frying pan, in oil.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:9 - -- And she took a pan, and poured them out before him,.... Out of the frying pan, in which they were, into another dish; and all this was done in his pr...
And she took a pan, and poured them out before him,.... Out of the frying pan, in which they were, into another dish; and all this was done in his presence, that he might see and know of what, and in what manner it was made, that his stomach might not recoil at it:
but he refused to eat: for that was not what he wanted:
and Amnon said, have out all men from me; as if company was troublesome to him, and he wanted rest, &c.
and they went out every man from him; at his orders, that he might get some sleep, as he seemed desirous of it.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:10 - -- And Amnon said unto Tamar, bring the meat into the chamber,.... An inner chamber, at a greater distance, where they might be more secret, and out of t...
And Amnon said unto Tamar, bring the meat into the chamber,.... An inner chamber, at a greater distance, where they might be more secret, and out of the reach of the hearing of any of his domestics:
that I may eat of thine hand; this he pretended, though his design was of another kind:
and Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother; being quite innocent herself, and having no suspicion of a brother having any ill design upon her, she made no scruple of going into an inner chamber alone with him.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:11 - -- And when she had brought them unto him to eat,.... Not only into the chamber, but to the side of the bed or couch where he had laid himself, or sat, ...
And when she had brought them unto him to eat,.... Not only into the chamber, but to the side of the bed or couch where he had laid himself, or sat, in a proper position to answer his purpose:
he took hold of her; by the arm, or threw his hands about her:
and said unto her, come, lie with me, my sister; one would think the relation he observes she stood in to him would have checked him from making so vile a motion.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:12 - -- And she answered him, nay, my brother,.... Which carried in it a reason sufficient for her denial, that he was her brother, and she his sister, and th...
And she answered him, nay, my brother,.... Which carried in it a reason sufficient for her denial, that he was her brother, and she his sister, and therefore should not offer such an indignity to her:
do not force me; which was another forbidding expression, signifying she would never freely yield to his will; and to force her, to defile her against her will, to commit a rape upon her, would be very criminal indeed:
for no such thing ought to be done in Israel; among God's professing people, who were better taught and instructed; and to give into such impure practices would bring a dishonour upon them, and upon the religion they professed; she urges the honour of religion, and the reputation of Israel, and the glory of the God of Israel:
do not thou this folly: as all sin is, especially such an impure and indecent action as this.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:13 - -- And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go?.... She desires him to consider hey reputation, which would be lost; was she to go into a corner, into a ...
And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go?.... She desires him to consider hey reputation, which would be lost; was she to go into a corner, into a place the most private and retired, yet she would blush at the thought of the crime committed; and still less able would she be to lift up her face in any public company; nor could she ever expect to be admitted into the matrimonial state; in short, her character would be entirely ruined:
and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel; as the vilest and basest and most abandoned in the nation; who ought of all men to be most careful of his reputation, being a prince in Israel, and heir apparent to the throne:
now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king: to give me to thee in marriage:
for he will not withhold me from thee; this she said, either as ignorant of the law, which forbids such marriages, or as supposing the king had a power to dispense with it, and, rather than he should die for love, would; though she seems to say this, and anything that occurred to her mind, to put him off of his wicked design for the present, holding then she should be delivered from him; besides, she was not his sister by the mother's side, and, as the Jews say, was born of a captive woman before she was proselyted and married to David, and so was free for Amnon z; and others say a she was the daughter of Maacah by a former husband, and not by David.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:14 - -- Howbeit, he would not hearken unto her voice,.... His lust was so inflamed and enraged, that he could not attend to any arguments, though ever so forc...
Howbeit, he would not hearken unto her voice,.... His lust was so inflamed and enraged, that he could not attend to any arguments, though ever so forcible, that were offered to him:
but being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her; whether she cried out or not, as the law directs in such cases, Deu 22:25; is not said; she might, and nobody hear her and come to her assistance; or she might not choose to expose her brother to his servants.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:15 - -- Then Amnon hated her exceedingly,.... Having gratified his lust, his conscience stung him for it, that he could not bear the sight of the object that ...
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly,.... Having gratified his lust, his conscience stung him for it, that he could not bear the sight of the object that had been the instrument of it; and it may be the sharp words she had used, representing him as one of the fools in Israel, and perhaps she used sharper words still after he had abused her, filled him with hatred to her:
so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her; a like instance of love being changed into hatred, after the gratification of lust, we have in Honorius towards his sister Placidia b:
and Amnon said unto her, arise, be gone; without calling her by her name, or owning the relation she bore to him, using her as the basest and vilest of creatures. This conduct was very brutish, as well as imprudent, and foolish to the last degree; had he had any regard to his own reputation, he would never have turned her out of doors so soon, and in such a public manner; but so it was ordered by divine Providence, that his sin might be made known, and so the murder of him for it by Absalom was brought on, and both were suffered as a correction and chastisement to David for his sins of adultery and murder, 2Sa 12:11.
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Gill: 2Sa 13:16 - -- And she said unto him, there is no cause,.... For such treatment as this:
this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst ...
And she said unto him, there is no cause,.... For such treatment as this:
this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me; not that this was a greater sin, but it was a greater evil or injury to her, that being done secretly, this openly; being turned out in that open manner, it might look as if she was the aggressor, and had drawn her brother into this sin, or however had consented to it; had it been kept a secret, she would not have been exposed to public shame and disgrace, and she might have been disposed of in marriage to another; it would not have been known to the grief of her father, to the revenge of Absalom, and to the dishonour of religion; besides, the sin of Amnon might have been more easily excused, if any excuse could be made for it, as that it arose from the force of lust, and a strong impure affection, but this from barbarity and inhumanity:
but he would not hearken unto her; but insisted upon her immediate departure.
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NET Notes: 2Sa 13:5 This verb is used in the Hitpael stem only in this chapter of the Hebrew Bible. With the exception of v. 2 it describes not a real sickness but one pr...
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NET Notes: 2Sa 13:9 A few medieval Hebrew mss have “and they removed everyone” (Hiphil preterite with vav consecutive 3cp, rather than Qal preterite with vav ...
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NET Notes: 2Sa 13:11 Heb “lie with me” (so NAB, NASB, NRSV); NCV “come and have sexual relations with me.”
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NET Notes: 2Sa 13:15 Heb “for greater was the hatred with which he hated her than the love with which he loved her.”
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NET Notes: 2Sa 13:16 Heb “No, because this great evil is [worse] than the other which you did with me, by sending me away.” Perhaps the broken syntax reflects ...
Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:1 And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name [was] ( a ) Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her.
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Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:2 And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she [was] a ( b ) virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her...
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Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:5 And Jonadab said unto him, ( c ) Lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, I pray thee, l...
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Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:6 So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick: and when the king was come to see him, Amnon said unto the king, I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come, and ...
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Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:9 And she took a pan, and ( e ) poured [them] out before him; but he refused to eat. And Amnon said, Have out all men from ( f ) me. And they went out e...
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Geneva Bible: 2Sa 13:13 And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of ( g ) the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unt...
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TSK Synopsis -> 2Sa 13:1-39
TSK Synopsis: 2Sa 13:1-39 - --1 Amnon loving Tamar, by Jonadab's counsel feigning himself sick, ravishes her.15 He hates her, and shamefully turns her away.19 Absalom entertains he...
MHCC -> 2Sa 13:1-20
MHCC: 2Sa 13:1-20 - --From henceforward David was followed with one trouble after another. Adultery and murder were David's sins, the like sins among his children were the ...
Matthew Henry -> 2Sa 13:1-20
Matthew Henry: 2Sa 13:1-20 - -- We have here a particular account of the abominable wickedness of Amnon in ravishing his sister, a subject not fit to be enlarged upon nor indeed to...
Keil-Delitzsch -> 2Sa 13:1-22
Keil-Delitzsch: 2Sa 13:1-22 - --
Amnon's Incest. - 2Sa 13:1-14. The following occurrences are assigned in a general manner to the times succeeding the Ammonitish war, by the words ...
Constable: 2Sa 9:1--20:26 - --VI. DAVID'S TROUBLES chs. 9--20
Chapters 9-20 contrast with chapters 2-8 in that this later section is negative ...
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Constable: 2Sa 13:1--20:26 - --C. David's Rejection and Return chs. 13-20
This is the longest literary section in the Court History of ...
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Constable: 2Sa 13:1--14:33 - --1. Events leading up to Absalom's rebellion chs. 13-14
David's disobedience to the Mosaic Covena...
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