
Text -- Ephesians 6:4 (NET)




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Robertson: Eph 6:4 - -- Provoke not to anger ( mē parorgizete ).
Rare compound, both N.T. examples (here and Rom 10:19) are quotations from the lxx. The active, as here, h...

Robertson: Eph 6:4 - -- In the chastening and admonition of the Lord ( en paideiāi kai nouthesiāi tou kuriou ).
En is the sphere in which it all takes place. There are...
In the chastening and admonition of the Lord (
Vincent: Eph 6:4 - -- Nurture and admonition ( παιδείᾳ καὶ νουθεσίᾳ )
Πας δείᾳ from παίς a child . In classical usage,...
Nurture and admonition (

Vincent: Eph 6:4 - -- Of the Lord
Such discipline as is prescribed by the Lord and is administered in His name.
Of the Lord
Such discipline as is prescribed by the Lord and is administered in His name.
Wesley: Eph 6:4 - -- Mothers are included; but fathers are named, as being more apt to be stern and severe.
Mothers are included; but fathers are named, as being more apt to be stern and severe.

Do not needlessly fret or exasperate them.

Both in Christian knowledge and practice.
JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Including mothers; the fathers are specified as being the fountains of domestic authority. Fathers are more prone to passion in relation to their chil...
Including mothers; the fathers are specified as being the fountains of domestic authority. Fathers are more prone to passion in relation to their children than mothers, whose fault is rather over-indulgence.

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Irritate not, by vexatious commands, unreasonable blame, and uncertain temper [ALFORD]. Col 3:21, "lest they be discouraged."
Irritate not, by vexatious commands, unreasonable blame, and uncertain temper [ALFORD]. Col 3:21, "lest they be discouraged."

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Greek, "discipline," namely, training by chastening in act where needed (Job 5:17; Heb 12:7).

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Training by words (Deu 6:7; "catechise," Pro 22:6, Margin), whether of encouragement, or remonstrance, or reproof, according as is required [TRENCH]. ...

Such as the Lord approves, and by His Spirit dictates.
Clarke: Eph 6:4 - -- Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath - Avoid all severity; this will hurt your own souls, and do them no good; on the contrary, if punished w...
Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath - Avoid all severity; this will hurt your own souls, and do them no good; on the contrary, if punished with severity or cruelty, they will be only hardened and made desperate in their sins. Cruel parents generally have bad children. He who corrects his children according to God and reason will feel every blow on his own heart more sensibly than his child feels it on his body. Parents are called to correct; not to punish, their children. Those who punish them do it from a principle of revenge; those who correct them do it from a principle of affectionate concern

Clarke: Eph 6:4 - -- Bring them up, etc - Εκτρεφετε αυτα εν παιδειᾳ και νουθεσια Κυριου· literally, Nourish them in the disci...
Bring them up, etc -
Calvin -> Eph 6:4
Calvin: Eph 6:4 - -- 4.And, ye fathers Parents, on the other hand, are exhorted not to irritate their children by unreasonable severity. This would excite hatred, and wou...
4.And, ye fathers Parents, on the other hand, are exhorted not to irritate their children by unreasonable severity. This would excite hatred, and would lead them to throw off the yoke altogether. Accordingly, in writing to the Colossians, he adds, “lest they be discouraged.” (Col 3:21.) Kind and liberal treatment has rather a tendency to cherish reverence for their parents, and to increase the cheerfulness and activity of their obedience, while a harsh and unkind manner rouses them to obstinacy, and destroys the natural affections. But Paul goes on to say, “let them be fondly cherished;” for the Greek word, (
Defender -> Eph 6:4
Defender: Eph 6:4 - -- "Nurture" (Greek paideia) is the same as "chastening" in Heb 12:5, Heb 12:7 and "instruction" in 2Ti 3:16. It has particular reference to child-traini...
"Nurture" (Greek
TSK -> Eph 6:4
TSK: Eph 6:4 - -- ye : Gen 31:14, Gen 31:15; 1Sa 20:30-34; Col 3:21
but : Gen 18:19; Exo 12:26, Exo 12:27, Exo 13:14, Exo 13:15; Deu 4:9, Deu 6:7, Deu 6:20-24, Deu 11:1...
ye : Gen 31:14, Gen 31:15; 1Sa 20:30-34; Col 3:21
but : Gen 18:19; Exo 12:26, Exo 12:27, Exo 13:14, Exo 13:15; Deu 4:9, Deu 6:7, Deu 6:20-24, Deu 11:19-21; Jos 4:6, Jos 4:7, Jos 4:21-24, Jos 24:15; 1Ch 22:10-13, 1Ch 28:9, 1Ch 28:10,1Ch 28:20, 1Ch 29:19; Psa 71:17; Psa 71:18, Psa 78:4-7; Pro 4:1-4, Pro 19:18, Pro 22:6, Pro 22:15, Pro 23:13, Pro 23:14, Pro 29:15, Pro 29:17; Isa 38:19; 2Ti 1:5, 2Ti 3:15; Heb 12:7-10

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Barnes -> Eph 6:4
Barnes: Eph 6:4 - -- And ye fathers - A command addressed particularly to "fathers,"because they are at the head of the family, and its government is especially com...
And ye fathers - A command addressed particularly to "fathers,"because they are at the head of the family, and its government is especially committed to them. The object of the apostle here is, to show parents that their commands should be such that they can be easily obeyed, or such as are entirely reasonable and proper. If children are required to "obey,"it is but reasonable that the commands of the parent should be such that they can be obeyed, or such that the child shall not be discouraged in his attempt to obey. This statement is in accordance with what he had said Eph 5:22-25 of the relation of husband and wife. It was the duty of the wife to obey - but it was the corresponding duty of the husband to manifest such a character that it would be pleasant to yield obedience - so to love her, that his known wish would be law to her. In like manner it is the duty of children to obey a parent; but it is the duty of a parent to exhibit such a character, and to maintain such a government, that it would be proper for the child to obey; to command nothing that is unreasonable or improper, but to train up his children in the ways of virtue and pure religion.
Provoke not your children to wrath - That is, by unreasonable commands; by needless severity; by the manifestation of anger. So govern them, and so punish them - if punishment is necessary - that they shall not lose their confidence in you, but shall love you. The apostle here has hit on the very danger to which parents are most exposed in the government of their children. It is that of souring their temper; of making them feel that the parent is under the influence of anger, and that it is right for them to be so too. This is done:
\caps1 (1) w\caps0 hen the commands of a parent are unreasonable and severe. The spirit of a child then becomes irritated, and he is "discouraged;"Col 3:21.
\caps1 (2) w\caps0 hen a parent is evidently "excited"when he punishes a child. The child then feels:
\tx720 \tx1080 (a)\caps1 t\caps0 hat if his "father"is angry, it is not wrong for him to be angry; and,
(b)\caps1 t\caps0 he very fact of anger in a parent kindles anger in his bosom - just as it does when two men are contending.
If he submits in the case, it is only because the parent is the "strongest,"not because he is "right,"and the child cherishes "anger,"while he yields to power. There is no principle of parental government more important than that a father should command his own temper when he inflicts punishment. He should punish a child not because he is "angry,"but because it is "right;"not because it has become a matter of "personal contest,"but because God requires that he should do it, and the welfare of the child demands it. The moment when a child seem that a parent punishes him under the influence of anger, that moment the child will be likely to be angry too - and his anger will be as proper as that of the parent. And yet, how often is punishment inflicted in this manner! And how often does the child feel that the parent punished him simply because he was the "strongest,"not because it was "right;"and how often is the mind of a child left with a strong conviction that wrong has been done him by the punishment which he has received, rather than with repentance for the wrong that he has himself done.
But bring them up - Place them under such discipline and instruction that they shall become acquainted with the Lord.
In the nurture -
And admonition - The word used here -
(1) That to suffer a child to grow up without any instruction in religion, is about the same as to suffer a garden to lie without any culture. Such a garden would soon be overrun with weeds, and briars, and thorns - but not sooner, or more certainly, than the mind of a child would.
\caps1 (2) p\caps0 eople do instruct their children in a great many things, and why should they not in religion? They teach them how to behave in company; the art of farming; the way to make or use tools; how to make money; how to avoid the arts of the cunning seducer. But why should it not be said that all this tends to destroy their independence, and to make them prejudiced? Why not leave their minds open and free, and suffer them to form their own judgments about farming and the mechanic arts when their minds are matured?
\caps1 (3) p\caps0 eople do inculcate their own sentiments in religion. An infidel is not usually "very"anxious to conceal his views from his children. People teach by example; by incidental remarks; by the "neglect"of that which they regard as of no value. A man who does not pray, is teaching his children not to pray; he who neglects the public worship of God, is teaching his children to neglect it; he who does not read the Bible, is teaching his children not to read it. Such is the constitution of things, that it is impossible for a parent not to inculcate his own religious views on his children. Since this is so, all that the Bible requires is, that his instructions should be right.
\caps1 (4) t\caps0 o inculcate the truths of religion is not to make the mind narrow, prejudiced, and indisposed to perceive the truth. Religion makes the mind candid, conscientious, open to conviction, ready to follow the truth. Superstition, bigotry, infidelity, and "all"error and falsehood, make the mind narrow and prejudiced.
\caps1 (5) i\caps0 f a man does not teach his children truth, others will teach them "error."The young sceptic that the child meets in the street; the artful infidel; the hater of God; the unprincipled stranger; "will"teach the child. But is it not better for a parent to teach his child the "truth"than for a stranger to teach him error?
(6) Religion is the most important of all subjects, and "therefore"it is of most importance that children on that subject should he taught truth. Of whom can God so properly require this as of a parent? If it be asked "in what way"a parent is to bring up his children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, I answer:
1. By directly inculcating the doctrines and duties of religion - just as he does anything else that he regards as of value.
2. By placing them in the Sunday school, where he may have a guarantee that they will be taught the truth.
3. By "conducting"them - not merely "sending"them - to the sanctuary, that they may be taught in the house of God.
4. By example - all teaching being valueless without that.
5. By prayer for the divine aid in his efforts, and for the salvation of their souls. These duties are plain, simple, easy to be performed, and are such as a man "knows"he ought to perform. If neglected, and the soul of the child be lost, a parent has a most fearful account to render to God.
Poole -> Eph 6:4
Poole: Eph 6:4 - -- Provoke not your children to wrath viz. by unreasonable severity, moroseness, unrighteous commands, &c.
But bring them up in the nurture or correct...
Provoke not your children to wrath viz. by unreasonable severity, moroseness, unrighteous commands, &c.
But bring them up in the nurture or correction, as the word signifies, Heb 12:6-8 .
And admonition this denotes the end of the former; instruction in their duty must be, as well as correction to drive them to it.
Of the Lord the Lord Jesus Christ; and so it is either that admonition which is commanded by him, or whereby they are brought to be acquainted with him.
Gill -> Eph 6:4
Gill: Eph 6:4 - -- And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath,.... Neither by words; by unjust and, unreasonable commands; by contumelious and reproachful langua...
And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath,.... Neither by words; by unjust and, unreasonable commands; by contumelious and reproachful language; by frequent and public chidings, and by indiscreet and passionate expressions: nor by deeds; preferring one to another; by denying them the necessaries of life; by not allowing them proper recreation; by severe and cruel blows, and inhuman usage; by not giving them suitable education; by an improper disposal of them in marriage; and by profusely spending their estates, and leaving nothing to them: not but that parents may, and ought to correct and rebuke their children; nor are they accountable to them for their conduct; yet they should take care not to provoke them to wrath, because this alienates their minds from them, and renders their instructions and corrections useless, and puts them upon sinful practices; wrath lets in Satan, and leads to sin against God; and indeed it is difficult in the best of men to be angry and not sin; see Col 3:21. Fathers are particularly mentioned, they being the heads of families, and are apt to be too severe, as mothers too indulgent.
But bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; instructing them in the knowledge of divine things, setting them good examples, taking care to prevent their falling into bad company, praying with them, and for them, bringing them into the house of God, under the means of grace, to attend public worship; all which, under a divine blessing, may be very useful to them; the example of Abraham is worthy of imitation, Gen 18:19, and the advice of the wise man deserves attention, Pro 22:6.

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NET Notes: Eph 6:4 Or “do not make your children angry.” BDAG 780 s.v. παροργίζω states “make angry.”...
Geneva Bible -> Eph 6:4
Geneva Bible: Eph 6:4 ( 6 ) And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and ( c ) admonition of the Lord.
( 6 ) It is the duty of...

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TSK Synopsis -> Eph 6:1-24
TSK Synopsis: Eph 6:1-24 - --1 The duty of children towards their parents;5 of servants towards their masters.10 Our life is a warfare, not only against flesh and blood, but also ...
Combined Bible -> Eph 6:4
Combined Bible: Eph 6:4 - --pay special note that there are no instructions here for mothers. This is because the father is the head of the family and is in the position of auth...
MHCC -> Eph 6:1-4
MHCC: Eph 6:1-4 - --The great duty of children is, to obey their parents. That obedience includes inward reverence, as well as outward acts, and in every age prosperity h...
Matthew Henry -> Eph 6:1-9
Matthew Henry: Eph 6:1-9 - -- Here we have further directions concerning relative duties, in which the apostle is very particular. I. The duty of children to their parents. Come...
Barclay: Eph 6:1-4 - --If the Christian faith did much for women, it did even more for children. In Roman civilization contemporary with Paul there existed certain feature...

Barclay: Eph 6:1-4 - --Paul lays on children that they should obey the commandment and honour their parents. He says this is the first commandment. He probably means that ...
Constable: Eph 4:1--6:21 - --III. THE CHRISTIAN'S CONDUCT 4:1--6:20
Practical application (chs. 4-6) now follows doctrinal instruction (chs. ...

Constable: Eph 4:1--6:10 - --A. Spiritual walk 4:1-6:9
Paul had explained the unity of Jewish and Gentile believers in the church and...

Constable: Eph 5:15--6:10 - --5. Walking in wisdom 5:15-6:9
Paul introduced a new thought with the repetition of "Therefore" a...
