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Text -- Ephesians 6:4 (NET)

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6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but raise them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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Robertson: Eph 6:4 - -- Provoke not to anger ( mē parorgizete ). Rare compound, both N.T. examples (here and Rom 10:19) are quotations from the lxx. The active, as here, h...

Provoke not to anger ( mē parorgizete ).

Rare compound, both N.T. examples (here and Rom 10:19) are quotations from the lxx. The active, as here, has a causative sense. Parallel in sense with mē erethizete in Col 3:21. Paul here touches the common sin of fathers.

Robertson: Eph 6:4 - -- In the chastening and admonition of the Lord ( en paideiāi kai nouthesiāi tou kuriou ). En is the sphere in which it all takes place. There are...

In the chastening and admonition of the Lord ( en paideiāi kai nouthesiāi tou kuriou ).

En is the sphere in which it all takes place. There are only three examples in the N.T. of paideia , old Greek for training a pais (boy or girl) and so for the general education and culture of the child. Both papyri and inscriptions give examples of this original and wider sense (Moulton and Milligan, Vocabulary ). It is possible, as Thayer gives it, that this is the meaning here in Eph 6:4. In 2Ti 3:16 adults are included also in the use. In Heb 12:5, Heb 12:7, Heb 12:11 the narrower sense of "chastening"appears which some argue for here. At any rate nouthesia (from nous , tithēmi ), common from Aristophanes on, does have the idea of correction. In N.T. only here and 1Co 10:11; Tit 3:10.

Vincent: Eph 6:4 - -- Nurture and admonition ( παιδείᾳ καὶ νουθεσίᾳ ) Πας δείᾳ from παίς a child . In classical usage,...

Nurture and admonition ( παιδείᾳ καὶ νουθεσίᾳ )

Πας δείᾳ from παίς a child . In classical usage, that which is applied to train and educate a Child. So Plato: " Education (παιδεία ) is the constraining and directing of youth toward that right reason which the law affirms, and which the experience of the best of our elders has agreed to be truly right" (" Laws," 659). In scriptural usage another meaning has come into it and its kindred verb παιδεύειν , which recognizes the necessity of correction or chastisement to thorough discipline. So Lev 26:18; Psa 6:1; Isa 53:5; Heb 12:5-8. In Act 7:22 παιδεύω occurs in the original classical sense: " Moses was instructed (ἐπαιδεύθη ) in all the wisdom," etc. The term here covers all the agencies which contribute to moral and spiritual training. Discipline is better than Rev., chastening . Νουθεσία admonition occurs only here, 1Co 10:11, and Tit 3:10. The kindred verb νουθετέω to warn or admonish , is found only in Paul's letters, with the single exception of Act 20:31 (see note). Its distinctive feature is training by word of mouth , as is shown by its classical usage in connection with words meaning to exhort or teach . Xenophon uses the phrase νουθετικοὶ λόγοι admonitory words . Yet it may include monition by deed . Thus Plato, speaking of public instruction in music, says that the spectators were kept quiet by the admonition of the wand (ῥάβδου νουθέτησις , " Laws," 700). He also uses the phrase πληγαῖς νουθετεῖν to admonish with blows . It includes rebuke , but not necessarily. Trench happily illustrates the etymological sense (νοῦς the mind , τίθημι to put ): " Whatever is needed to cause the monition to be laid to heart ." Admonition is a mode of discipline, so that the two words nurture and admonition stand related as general and special.

Vincent: Eph 6:4 - -- Of the Lord Such discipline as is prescribed by the Lord and is administered in His name.

Of the Lord

Such discipline as is prescribed by the Lord and is administered in His name.

Wesley: Eph 6:4 - -- Mothers are included; but fathers are named, as being more apt to be stern and severe.

Mothers are included; but fathers are named, as being more apt to be stern and severe.

Wesley: Eph 6:4 - -- Do not needlessly fret or exasperate them.

Do not needlessly fret or exasperate them.

Wesley: Eph 6:4 - -- With all tenderness and mildness.

With all tenderness and mildness.

Wesley: Eph 6:4 - -- Both in Christian knowledge and practice.

Both in Christian knowledge and practice.

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Including mothers; the fathers are specified as being the fountains of domestic authority. Fathers are more prone to passion in relation to their chil...

Including mothers; the fathers are specified as being the fountains of domestic authority. Fathers are more prone to passion in relation to their children than mothers, whose fault is rather over-indulgence.

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Irritate not, by vexatious commands, unreasonable blame, and uncertain temper [ALFORD]. Col 3:21, "lest they be discouraged."

Irritate not, by vexatious commands, unreasonable blame, and uncertain temper [ALFORD]. Col 3:21, "lest they be discouraged."

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Greek, "discipline," namely, training by chastening in act where needed (Job 5:17; Heb 12:7).

Greek, "discipline," namely, training by chastening in act where needed (Job 5:17; Heb 12:7).

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Training by words (Deu 6:7; "catechise," Pro 22:6, Margin), whether of encouragement, or remonstrance, or reproof, according as is required [TRENCH]. ...

Training by words (Deu 6:7; "catechise," Pro 22:6, Margin), whether of encouragement, or remonstrance, or reproof, according as is required [TRENCH]. Contrast 1Sa 3:13, Margin.

JFB: Eph 6:4 - -- Such as the Lord approves, and by His Spirit dictates.

Such as the Lord approves, and by His Spirit dictates.

Clarke: Eph 6:4 - -- Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath - Avoid all severity; this will hurt your own souls, and do them no good; on the contrary, if punished w...

Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath - Avoid all severity; this will hurt your own souls, and do them no good; on the contrary, if punished with severity or cruelty, they will be only hardened and made desperate in their sins. Cruel parents generally have bad children. He who corrects his children according to God and reason will feel every blow on his own heart more sensibly than his child feels it on his body. Parents are called to correct; not to punish, their children. Those who punish them do it from a principle of revenge; those who correct them do it from a principle of affectionate concern

Clarke: Eph 6:4 - -- Bring them up, etc - Εκτρεφετε αυτα εν παιδειᾳ και νουθεσια Κυριου· literally, Nourish them in the disci...

Bring them up, etc - Εκτρεφετε αυτα εν παιδειᾳ και νουθεσια Κυριου· literally, Nourish them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. The mind is to be nourished with wholesome discipline and instruction, as the body is with proper food. Παιδεια, discipline, may refer to all that knowledge which is proper for children, including elementary principles and rules for behavior, etc. Νουθεσια, instruction, may imply whatever is necessary to form the mind; to touch, regulate, and purify the passions; and necessarily includes the whole of religion. Both these should be administered in the Lord - according to his will and word, and in reference to his eternal glory. All the important lessons and doctrines being derived from his revelation, therefore they are called the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Calvin: Eph 6:4 - -- 4.And, ye fathers Parents, on the other hand, are exhorted not to irritate their children by unreasonable severity. This would excite hatred, and wou...

4.And, ye fathers Parents, on the other hand, are exhorted not to irritate their children by unreasonable severity. This would excite hatred, and would lead them to throw off the yoke altogether. Accordingly, in writing to the Colossians, he adds, “lest they be discouraged.” (Col 3:21.) Kind and liberal treatment has rather a tendency to cherish reverence for their parents, and to increase the cheerfulness and activity of their obedience, while a harsh and unkind manner rouses them to obstinacy, and destroys the natural affections. But Paul goes on to say, “let them be fondly cherished;” for the Greek word, (ἐκτρέφετε,) which is translated bring up, unquestionably conveys the idea of gentleness and forbearance. To guard them, however, against the opposite and frequent evil of excessive indulgence, he again draws the rein which he had slackened, and adds, in the instruction and reproof of the Lord. It is not the will of God that parents, in the exercise of kindness, shall spare and corrupt their children. Let their conduct towards their children be at once mild and considerate, so as to guide them in the fear of the Lord, and correct them also when they go astray. That age is so apt to become wanton, that it requires frequent admonition and restraint.

Defender: Eph 6:4 - -- "Nurture" (Greek paideia) is the same as "chastening" in Heb 12:5, Heb 12:7 and "instruction" in 2Ti 3:16. It has particular reference to child-traini...

"Nurture" (Greek paideia) is the same as "chastening" in Heb 12:5, Heb 12:7 and "instruction" in 2Ti 3:16. It has particular reference to child-training, carried out with both firmness and gentleness as needed in each particular case. "Admonition" (Greek nouthesia) means literally "putting in mind;" thus "admonition of the Lord" implies teaching the Lord's ways through His Word. Note that both - instruction through actions and instruction through verbal teaching - are primarily the responsibility of the father, although others (especially the mother - Pro 1:8) may be called upon by him to participate in the child-training activities. It is significant that the first reference in the Bible to teaching has to do with Abraham's responsibility to bring up his own son in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Gen 18:19)."

TSK: Eph 6:4 - -- ye : Gen 31:14, Gen 31:15; 1Sa 20:30-34; Col 3:21 but : Gen 18:19; Exo 12:26, Exo 12:27, Exo 13:14, Exo 13:15; Deu 4:9, Deu 6:7, Deu 6:20-24, Deu 11:1...

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Barnes: Eph 6:4 - -- And ye fathers - A command addressed particularly to "fathers,"because they are at the head of the family, and its government is especially com...

And ye fathers - A command addressed particularly to "fathers,"because they are at the head of the family, and its government is especially committed to them. The object of the apostle here is, to show parents that their commands should be such that they can be easily obeyed, or such as are entirely reasonable and proper. If children are required to "obey,"it is but reasonable that the commands of the parent should be such that they can be obeyed, or such that the child shall not be discouraged in his attempt to obey. This statement is in accordance with what he had said Eph 5:22-25 of the relation of husband and wife. It was the duty of the wife to obey - but it was the corresponding duty of the husband to manifest such a character that it would be pleasant to yield obedience - so to love her, that his known wish would be law to her. In like manner it is the duty of children to obey a parent; but it is the duty of a parent to exhibit such a character, and to maintain such a government, that it would be proper for the child to obey; to command nothing that is unreasonable or improper, but to train up his children in the ways of virtue and pure religion.

Provoke not your children to wrath - That is, by unreasonable commands; by needless severity; by the manifestation of anger. So govern them, and so punish them - if punishment is necessary - that they shall not lose their confidence in you, but shall love you. The apostle here has hit on the very danger to which parents are most exposed in the government of their children. It is that of souring their temper; of making them feel that the parent is under the influence of anger, and that it is right for them to be so too. This is done:

\caps1 (1) w\caps0 hen the commands of a parent are unreasonable and severe. The spirit of a child then becomes irritated, and he is "discouraged;"Col 3:21.

\caps1 (2) w\caps0 hen a parent is evidently "excited"when he punishes a child. The child then feels:

\tx720 \tx1080 (a)\caps1     t\caps0 hat if his "father"is angry, it is not wrong for him to be angry; and,

(b)\caps1     t\caps0 he very fact of anger in a parent kindles anger in his bosom - just as it does when two men are contending.

If he submits in the case, it is only because the parent is the "strongest,"not because he is "right,"and the child cherishes "anger,"while he yields to power. There is no principle of parental government more important than that a father should command his own temper when he inflicts punishment. He should punish a child not because he is "angry,"but because it is "right;"not because it has become a matter of "personal contest,"but because God requires that he should do it, and the welfare of the child demands it. The moment when a child seem that a parent punishes him under the influence of anger, that moment the child will be likely to be angry too - and his anger will be as proper as that of the parent. And yet, how often is punishment inflicted in this manner! And how often does the child feel that the parent punished him simply because he was the "strongest,"not because it was "right;"and how often is the mind of a child left with a strong conviction that wrong has been done him by the punishment which he has received, rather than with repentance for the wrong that he has himself done.

But bring them up - Place them under such discipline and instruction that they shall become acquainted with the Lord.

In the nurture - ἐν παιδεία en paideia . The word used here means "training of a child;"hence education, instruction, discipline. Here it means that they are to train up their children in such a manner as the Lord approves; that is, they are to educate them for virtue and religion.

And admonition - The word used here - νουθεσία nouthesia means literally, "a putting in mind,"then warning, admonition, instruction. The sense here is, that they were to put them in mind of the Lord - of his existence, perfections, law, and claims on their hearts and lives. This command is positive, and is in accordance with all the requirements of the Bible on the subject. No one can doubt that the Bible enjoins on parents the duty of endeavoring to train up their children in the ways of religion, and of making it the grand purpose of this life to prepare them for heaven. It has been often objected that children should be left on religious subjects to form their own opinions when they are able to judge for themselves. Infidels and irreligious people always oppose or neglect the duty here enjoined; and the plea commonly is, that to teach religion to children is to make them prejudiced; to destroy their independence of mind; and to prevent their judging as impartially on so important a subject as they ought to. In reply to this, and in defense of the requirements of the Bible on the subject, we may remark:

(1) That to suffer a child to grow up without any instruction in religion, is about the same as to suffer a garden to lie without any culture. Such a garden would soon be overrun with weeds, and briars, and thorns - but not sooner, or more certainly, than the mind of a child would.

\caps1 (2) p\caps0 eople do instruct their children in a great many things, and why should they not in religion? They teach them how to behave in company; the art of farming; the way to make or use tools; how to make money; how to avoid the arts of the cunning seducer. But why should it not be said that all this tends to destroy their independence, and to make them prejudiced? Why not leave their minds open and free, and suffer them to form their own judgments about farming and the mechanic arts when their minds are matured?

\caps1 (3) p\caps0 eople do inculcate their own sentiments in religion. An infidel is not usually "very"anxious to conceal his views from his children. People teach by example; by incidental remarks; by the "neglect"of that which they regard as of no value. A man who does not pray, is teaching his children not to pray; he who neglects the public worship of God, is teaching his children to neglect it; he who does not read the Bible, is teaching his children not to read it. Such is the constitution of things, that it is impossible for a parent not to inculcate his own religious views on his children. Since this is so, all that the Bible requires is, that his instructions should be right.

\caps1 (4) t\caps0 o inculcate the truths of religion is not to make the mind narrow, prejudiced, and indisposed to perceive the truth. Religion makes the mind candid, conscientious, open to conviction, ready to follow the truth. Superstition, bigotry, infidelity, and "all"error and falsehood, make the mind narrow and prejudiced.

\caps1 (5) i\caps0 f a man does not teach his children truth, others will teach them "error."The young sceptic that the child meets in the street; the artful infidel; the hater of God; the unprincipled stranger; "will"teach the child. But is it not better for a parent to teach his child the "truth"than for a stranger to teach him error?

(6) Religion is the most important of all subjects, and "therefore"it is of most importance that children on that subject should he taught truth. Of whom can God so properly require this as of a parent? If it be asked "in what way"a parent is to bring up his children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, I answer:

1.    By directly inculcating the doctrines and duties of religion - just as he does anything else that he regards as of value.

2.    By placing them in the Sunday school, where he may have a guarantee that they will be taught the truth.

3.    By "conducting"them - not merely "sending"them - to the sanctuary, that they may be taught in the house of God.

4.    By example - all teaching being valueless without that.

5.    By prayer for the divine aid in his efforts, and for the salvation of their souls. These duties are plain, simple, easy to be performed, and are such as a man "knows"he ought to perform. If neglected, and the soul of the child be lost, a parent has a most fearful account to render to God.

Poole: Eph 6:4 - -- Provoke not your children to wrath viz. by unreasonable severity, moroseness, unrighteous commands, &c. But bring them up in the nurture or correct...

Provoke not your children to wrath viz. by unreasonable severity, moroseness, unrighteous commands, &c.

But bring them up in the nurture or correction, as the word signifies, Heb 12:6-8 .

And admonition this denotes the end of the former; instruction in their duty must be, as well as correction to drive them to it.

Of the Lord the Lord Jesus Christ; and so it is either that admonition which is commanded by him, or whereby they are brought to be acquainted with him.

Gill: Eph 6:4 - -- And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath,.... Neither by words; by unjust and, unreasonable commands; by contumelious and reproachful langua...

And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath,.... Neither by words; by unjust and, unreasonable commands; by contumelious and reproachful language; by frequent and public chidings, and by indiscreet and passionate expressions: nor by deeds; preferring one to another; by denying them the necessaries of life; by not allowing them proper recreation; by severe and cruel blows, and inhuman usage; by not giving them suitable education; by an improper disposal of them in marriage; and by profusely spending their estates, and leaving nothing to them: not but that parents may, and ought to correct and rebuke their children; nor are they accountable to them for their conduct; yet they should take care not to provoke them to wrath, because this alienates their minds from them, and renders their instructions and corrections useless, and puts them upon sinful practices; wrath lets in Satan, and leads to sin against God; and indeed it is difficult in the best of men to be angry and not sin; see Col 3:21. Fathers are particularly mentioned, they being the heads of families, and are apt to be too severe, as mothers too indulgent.

But bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; instructing them in the knowledge of divine things, setting them good examples, taking care to prevent their falling into bad company, praying with them, and for them, bringing them into the house of God, under the means of grace, to attend public worship; all which, under a divine blessing, may be very useful to them; the example of Abraham is worthy of imitation, Gen 18:19, and the advice of the wise man deserves attention, Pro 22:6.

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Commentary -- Verse Notes / Footnotes

NET Notes: Eph 6:4 Or “do not make your children angry.” BDAG 780 s.v. παροργίζω states “make angry.”...

Geneva Bible: Eph 6:4 ( 6 ) And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and ( c ) admonition of the Lord. ( 6 ) It is the duty of...

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Commentary -- Verse Range Notes

TSK Synopsis: Eph 6:1-24 - --1 The duty of children towards their parents;5 of servants towards their masters.10 Our life is a warfare, not only against flesh and blood, but also ...

Combined Bible: Eph 6:4 - --pay special note that there are no instructions here for mothers. This is because the father is the head of the family and is in the position of auth...

MHCC: Eph 6:1-4 - --The great duty of children is, to obey their parents. That obedience includes inward reverence, as well as outward acts, and in every age prosperity h...

Matthew Henry: Eph 6:1-9 - -- Here we have further directions concerning relative duties, in which the apostle is very particular. I. The duty of children to their parents. Come...

Barclay: Eph 6:1-4 - --If the Christian faith did much for women, it did even more for children. In Roman civilization contemporary with Paul there existed certain feature...

Barclay: Eph 6:1-4 - --Paul lays on children that they should obey the commandment and honour their parents. He says this is the first commandment. He probably means that ...

Constable: Eph 4:1--6:21 - --III. THE CHRISTIAN'S CONDUCT 4:1--6:20 Practical application (chs. 4-6) now follows doctrinal instruction (chs. ...

Constable: Eph 4:1--6:10 - --A. Spiritual walk 4:1-6:9 Paul had explained the unity of Jewish and Gentile believers in the church and...

Constable: Eph 5:15--6:10 - --5. Walking in wisdom 5:15-6:9 Paul introduced a new thought with the repetition of "Therefore" a...

Constable: Eph 6:4 - --The duty of fathers 6:4 Paul addressed fathers because they are God's ordained family he...

College: Eph 6:1-24 - --EPHESIANS 6 2. Children and Parents (6:1-4) 1 Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2"Honor your father and mother" - which is ...

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Commentary -- Other

Evidence: Eph 6:4 " I am much afraid that schools will prove to be the great gates of hell unless they diligently labor in explaining the Holy Scriptures, engraving the...

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Introduction / Outline

Robertson: Ephesians (Book Introduction) The Epistle to the Ephesians From Rome a.d. 63 By Way of Introduction There are some problems of a special nature that confront us about the so-...

JFB: Ephesians (Book Introduction) THE headings (Eph 1:1, and Eph 3:1, show that this Epistle claims to be that of Paul. This claim is confirmed by the testimonies of IRENÆUS, [Against...

JFB: Ephesians (Outline) INSCRIPTION: ORIGIN OF THE CHURCH IN THE FATHER'S ETERNAL COUNSEL, AND THE SON'S BLOODSHEDDING: THE SEALING OF IT BY THE SPIRIT. THANKSGIVING AND PRA...

TSK: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) Overview Eph 6:1, The duty of children towards their parents; Eph 6:5, of servants towards their masters; Eph 6:10, Our life is a warfare, not onl...

Poole: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) CHAPTER 6

MHCC: Ephesians (Book Introduction) This epistle was written when St. Paul was a prisoner at Rome. The design appears to be to strengthen the Ephesians in the faith of Christ, and to giv...

MHCC: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) (Eph 6:1-4) The duties of children and parents. (Eph 6:5-9) Of servants and masters. (Eph 6:10-18) All Christians are to put on spiritual armour aga...

Matthew Henry: Ephesians (Book Introduction) An Exposition, with Practical Observations, of The Epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians Some think that this epistle to the Ephesians was a circular l...

Matthew Henry: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) In this chapter, I. The apostle proceeds in the exhortation to relative duties which he began in the former, particularly he insists on the duties...

Barclay: Ephesians (Book Introduction) A GENERAL INTRODUCTION TO THE LETTERS OF PAUL The Letters Of Paul There is no more interesting body of documents in the New Testament than the letter...

Barclay: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) Children And Parents (Eph_6:1-4) Children And Parents Eph_6:1-4 (Continued) Masters And Slaves (Eph_6:5-9) Masters And Slaves Eph_6:5-9 (Continue...

Constable: Ephesians (Book Introduction) Introduction Historical background Almost all Christians believed in the Pauline autho...

Constable: Ephesians (Outline) Outline I. Salutation 1:1-2 II. The Christian's calling 1:3-3:21 A. Indi...

Constable: Ephesians Ephesians Bibliography Abbot, T. K. A Critical and Exegetical Commentary on the Epistles to the Ephesians and t...

Haydock: Ephesians (Book Introduction) THE EPISTLE OF ST. PAUL, THE APOSTLE, TO THE EPHESIANS. INTRODUCTION. Ephesus was a famous city, the metropolis of Asia Minor, upon the Ægean...

Gill: Ephesians (Book Introduction) INTRODUCTION TO EPHESIANS The city of Ephesus is, by Pliny a, called the other light of Asia; Miletus was one, and Ephesus the other: it was the me...

Gill: Ephesians 6 (Chapter Introduction) INTRODUCTION TO EPHESIANS 6 In this chapter the apostle goes on with his exhortations to relative and domestic duties, and considers those of child...

College: Ephesians (Book Introduction) INTRODUCTION We are saved by grace through faith! We do not earn our salvation - it is the gift of God. This is the shocking good news of Ephesians. ...

College: Ephesians (Outline) OUTLINE I. DOCTRINE: God's Plan for Salvation - Eph 1:1-3:21 A. God's Blessings - 1:1-23 1. Salutation - 1:1-2 2. Present Blessings in Ch...

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